Why does a guy hide his profile?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Why does a guy hide his profile?
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 11:29pm
It's me again...I'm here so much I should start paying rent ;-)
I've been e-mailing this guy sporadically for the last month. For the first 3 weeks, he was in another state with the Army Reserves or National Guard or something, so we only e-mailed about a half dozen times. Our e-mails haven't been much of anything, just "hey, when are you coming home? Let's chat sometime...how's it going in Georgia?" kind of stuff. But he e-mailed me the day he got back to tell me he was back, and that we'd chat on IM as soon as he got his internet service turned on in his new apartment. This was Friday. I responded on Friday nite, with another short e-mail. He e-mailed back on Saturday, I waited until Sunday afternoon to respond. (These are to/from personal e-mail accounts.) Then last nite (Monday), he e-mailed me to/from our Match.com accounts, saying that he had gone to a footbal game and lost his voice, but that when I got back from vacation on Saturday (I'm leaving in the morning), we'd chat; I responded to that one.
Well, I tried to look up his profile to see his pics again tonite, and he's hidden his profile.
So what the hell does that mean? He's the one that winked at me first, and I haven't bombarded him with e-mails, in fact, for the most part, he's been the one to e-mail me first, so I can't imagine that he's hiding from me specifically. And we haven't even e-mailed anything substantial, so I know it's not b/c he only wants to focus on me (well, I could hope, but I don't think that's very likely! lol)
So why else would he have hidden his profile? I have to wait 5 more days before I can e-mail him and find out! Any ideas?
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Registered: 07-18-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 11:35pm
Perhaps he just got tired of having to respond to email. When I was doing OLD and if I couldn't keep up with the email, I would hide my profile so I could deal with what I had at the time. Or perhaps he meet someone he wanted to focus more on. It could be you or someone else. You need to just keep what you are doing and if and when he contacts you great. But don't put too much thought into it and don't take it personally that he doesn't want to contact you so therefore he is hiding his profile. Good luck.
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 12:16am

HI C,

Hmmm, a little red flag-age here...so you say he got Back into town, but you all have not seen each other yet? Why not? If a man likes you, he wants to be around you. Amen.

People hide their profiles for a lot of reasons; many times they do not want someone who is not Supposed to see them on OLD, online, so they hide it when that person gets a clue it is there...it could be much more innocent than that. True that he has the Right to be dating a lot of people, but in my OLD experience, hiding a profile was not a very good thing, nor the reason for doing so.

As far as being overwhelmed by mail,I got a lot of hits in my 8 months on OLD and they just came to my mailbox and I opened them as I had time, per My schedule, and it was no real problem. Yet, some may be overwhelmed, and choose to be hidden.

Jmho, but I think I would put back burner, go have fun on vacation and let him pursue you. It seems a good time to bring this to phone conversations and some dates, as well, don't you think? Gotta progress, or it is time for Ding! Next!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 1:39am
He only got back 3 days ago, (and I'm leaving for vacation in 5 hours), and I don't think we've e-mailed each other enough to even know if we would want to meet each other! We've only e-mailed about 8 times in the last month. We haven't even talked on the phone yet, but we made tentative plans for him to call me Sunday when I get home from vacation. This seems to be moving just a tad bit slower than what I'm used to, due to him being away for the first 3 weeks of our getting to know each other stage, but not by a whole lot. I imagine that once we're both in town at the same time, it'll kick start and move ahead. I think it's a good sign that he e-mailed me the night he got back into town, and twice since then, so I don't think he's hiding from me personally, it just seems weird that someone would hide their profile. I've never known anyone to hide their profile unless they're at a "let's talk about where this is going" stage in a relationship, which we're clearly not.
Just a little confused, that's all...
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Registered: 11-22-2001
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 8:52am
The profile could be hidden if he's made changes to it.....match hides the profile until the changes are approved....
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 4:53pm
Well, I e-mailed him today to let him know I'm home from vacation, so I'm just waiting for his response. But I checked again, and his profile is still hidden. Hmmm...very strange...
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 5:08pm

The rollerblading guy I'm seeing hid his profile too.

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