why doesn´t he want to meet me????
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why doesn´t he want to meet me????
| Thu, 09-21-2006 - 8:26am |
I started e-mailing, twice a day, with a guy 8 months ago. We`ve never met but since his accounting firm handles my companies things we have been calling each other, for work related purposes, for almost 3 years.
Even though I think it´s quite obvious that he feels something for me, he´ll write twice a day no matter how much work he has, he sent me messages while he was on vacation, in those e-mails apart from ending them saying "kisses" and many times "many kisses" followed by an entire line of exclamation marks, he´s always saying things that make me believe he is interested in me, etc, etc,; the two times I`ve suggested we meet for a drink, he´s backed out. Last week I asked him what was the reason why he never wanted to have a drink with me. He said that it wasn´t that he didn´t want to, it was just that although he´d thought about several times, he just never got around to it. So here we are, a week after that and we still haven´t met.
I don´t understand what´s going on in his head, is he interested in me or not? I´m 7 years older than he is, he´s single, I´m married (about to go our separate ways) and I have two kids. he knows all of this, and still he seems interested, but why doesn´t he want to meet me?? I desperately need some advice!!!
Even though I think it´s quite obvious that he feels something for me, he´ll write twice a day no matter how much work he has, he sent me messages while he was on vacation, in those e-mails apart from ending them saying "kisses" and many times "many kisses" followed by an entire line of exclamation marks, he´s always saying things that make me believe he is interested in me, etc, etc,; the two times I`ve suggested we meet for a drink, he´s backed out. Last week I asked him what was the reason why he never wanted to have a drink with me. He said that it wasn´t that he didn´t want to, it was just that although he´d thought about several times, he just never got around to it. So here we are, a week after that and we still haven´t met.
I don´t understand what´s going on in his head, is he interested in me or not? I´m 7 years older than he is, he´s single, I´m married (about to go our separate ways) and I have two kids. he knows all of this, and still he seems interested, but why doesn´t he want to meet me?? I desperately need some advice!!!

I wouldn't waste another minute wondering why this guy isn't asking you out. He isn't. Any normal red blooded male who is sincerely interested would have no problem asking you out. Whatever his problem is, if he can't meet you for a drink after all of this communication, he probably isn't somebody you'd want to date anyway. Move on.
Coolas
'Putting aside your marital status for a moment, that's just how it goes online sometimes'
well that seems depressing considering most people are online dating to go on dates.
That aside, why have you continued to speak with this man when after 8 months he hasnt gone out with you and you've been the one to ask? That sounds odd. I would have stopped talking to him probably the 1st or 2nd time he declined my invitations to go out. I'd think, ok he's not that interested and i want to find someone who is. If you want to have a penpal fine, but it sounds like that's all you're going to get from this guy.
Maybe he's waiting until you are at least actually separated.
Or, it's possible that he's involved with someone and thinks it's ok to have this email flirtation but draws the line at actually meeting in person.
Regardless of the reason, though, there is *something* that is holding him back from meeting you, so I'd let it go. If you aren't happy with just exchanging emails, then stop and tell him that he knows where to find you if he changes his mind about going out some time.
Sheri