Why guy's don't bother sending "thanks".

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Why guy's don't bother sending "thanks".
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:30pm

Ok - I'm 5'10 and have 8 pictures. After reading all the back and forth on here I decided to be polite to my last meet with a thanks but not a match... This is why guys don't bother. following up...

"I enjoyed meeting you. I do think you need to put a more accurate picture on your profile and you should change your height. I am sorry but you are not 5'10. Thanks again"

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2004
I'm not a guy but this is also why I don't send those emails either. For those who do, I suggest blocking right after sending.
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Registered: 07-03-2004

OMG, lg, that's hilarious. Maybe you're not as tall as you think you are? ha ha

Is this the chick who stared at you as if you were a ghost?

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Registered: 10-17-2002

This was exactly my point in my post from last night about guys not taking a hint. Obviously it is a universal issue. There is no reason to get nasty or snippy and no reason to push anything once someone gives you the polite brush-off. It just makes me mad when people do thing like that.

It is nice to get the occasional "Thanks, I appreciate the honesty" email, but much more likely is the snippy reply or the one I got last night! I told him, "Thanks for the email but I think we are looking for different things." and he replied "Really? What are you looking for that I don't have?". I should have just blocked after sending the original email, but I didn't. After the response, I deleted it and blocked. Blech.

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Registered: 12-10-2004

It's the WalMart bag. They're not very slimming and are known to reduce your height.

LOL

Seriously, are you SURE that you're 5'10"? Go measure yourself, no shoes, and check back.

As far as "you don't match your picture", well, that's not something you can do much about. The reason, I believe, is that some people really build a picture in *their head* about how someone looks, and depending on how that picture is we are either going to be much better or worse looking.

I suspect that she had some kind of a mental image built up that, unfortunately, you didn't live up to. So rather than accept the obvious- that she had a screwed up idea in HER head- she blames you for it. Which is weak, but what can ya do?

Basically, if you read her email, it's kind of a slap. I suspect she felt like you were smacking her, so she struck back because she was hurt/disappointed. Basically, her email could just as easily say "I enjoyed meeting you. I had a wrong idea in my head about what you looked like and how tall you are. Thanks again."

Kudos to you for being nice enough to tell her "thanks but we're not a match".

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Registered: 05-16-2004

No this is one that I had lunch with yesterday. I just measured myself dammit - and I am 5'10. She was as tall or taller than me and she had listed 5'5" on her profile.

Oh well - that's what you get for trying to be nice. And it's not like I have only one picture (like she did) -- I've got 8 photos in my profile. Do people not know they can look at more photos?

I'm sure the other one who stared at me must have gotten me mistaken with someone else too. Oh well. I didn't bother sending her a thanks note. And it looks like I won't bother sending amy more in the future..

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Registered: 10-26-2004

Hi Lg,

"Me-to-th-Ow". Can you say Rude?...I thought you could!

I think she showed her immaturity, which You could argue was probably not posted on her profile under "about moi". Maybe this was, in a subconscious way, something of the 'feeling' you may have had about her, and reason you sent the email. Proper response from her was either: (a)No response, be a lady (b)"Thank you for your honesty. Good luck"--be a lady!

Cheap shot. Missed the target, I hope!

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Registered: 04-29-2003

She was obviously disappointed by your not interested follow up therefore to make herself feel better about being rejected by you she had to insult you. It happens a lot with OLD. The best thing to do is say nothing (silence is golden) be the bigger person (two wrongs don’t make a right AKA karma) and maybe next time just not saying anything at all. If you know you’re not a match at the end of the date just say “it was nice meeting you” – that’s the biggest hint you won’t be calling but you were being polite – email follow up is not necessary!

Onward and upward!

Peanut

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Maybe she hasn't been measured since her 6th grade physical?


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2004

OMG!

You all GREW past 6th grade?! Man...wish someone had signed Me up for that program!

truly,
Cupcake

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
LMAO -- from one shorty to another!

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