Why is it so hard?!?!?

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Registered: 02-07-2010
Why is it so hard?!?!?
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Sun, 02-07-2010 - 2:30am
Ok, there has to be something that I am either missing or doing wrong.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 02-20-2010 - 2:55pm

It was not my intention to come across as nasty but I call it like I see it.

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Registered: 02-07-2010
Sat, 02-20-2010 - 5:26pm

Really?

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Sun, 02-21-2010 - 9:02am

I didn't say I was implying things as a general statement (other than the winks because I did say WINKS are lazy), I was implying them to your actions (that said, they are the actions of many and I would say the same thing to anyone who said what

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 08-25-2005
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 12:17am
Hmm. It's interesting that you think "winks" are lazy. While I don't think they always the best of the bunch in terms of communication, I do think they can be used as a "boost" where they let people know that they like what they see/read and has interest. It's a tool that can be used as an ice breaker. But everyone has their own opinion.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 3:46pm

I rarely bother to look at the profile if I am sent a wink.

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Registered: 02-07-2010
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 4:51pm

Your not very good at apologies are you? You sound like a reasonably intelligent woman. So the difference between I am sorry you are offended, and I am sorry I offended you are very different, no? Since you chose the former, it only tells me that you are not sorry for offending me, which pretty much is a wasted attempt at apologizing. If you don't mean it, don't even bother. I can jump to my own conclusions about you from that lame attempt of an apology. Unlike you I wont write it because I do not enjoy offending people and I actually care about what others think of me in this world.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 9:14pm

Actually, I am fine at apologies.

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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 10:41pm

You are right about one thing.

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Registered: 12-27-2001
Wed, 03-03-2010 - 6:06pm

Well, I was going to put my extremely profound views on winks and such forward on this post, but now I'm a bit trepidatious.


Oh, and I've made up that word. Fearless I am. I'm supposed to use "with trepidation" but it doesn't sound as fun as my fabricated word.


I digress.


No one will ever agree with everything here. I don't like winks either. I get to thinking that the guy who's winked me isn't really into me, just trolling around a bit, passing time. I overanalyze, though.


But the other thing about winks--and I may be wrong--is that non-paying members can wink, but they can't write and they can't check their e-mail. So that may be another reason women don't go for the winky, winky.


The OLD thing is supposed to be fun, not cause angst. It's good to change things around if something you're trying isn't working.


Just my polite attempt to help.

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 1:47am

Winks say you are kind of interested but not really.

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