Why Is OLD looked upon negatively?

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Why Is OLD looked upon negatively?
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 10:27am

Hi,

It is not my imagination, and when I tell friends and co-workers that I have an OLD date, they wrinkle up their noses like I have just said "we have a calf as a pet and he is Alllmost housebroken...really!". I know this can be pretty hinky as far as dating methods go, but like everything, there are pros and cons.

Still, I do prefer this to metting men at bars, and I have been truly open to meeting men in 'real time',but never do, except for pilots, and we all know they are "Air Dogs"--no thanks!

Would like to hear the comments/feedback you all get from those you know concerning OLD..it is like something you should 'hide' when you say you have a date, and I do not want to do that!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 7:55am

I think my single friends who are leery of it are just a little timid in general. But my best friends have been with me on the roller coaster for years now and know the score -- I don't meet anybody in RL and they know that, and they are supportive. (Although I have cut WAAAY back on the number of reports I give them, now that I am Ms. Low Expectations.)

I find a lot of people are more curious than negative -- "is that safe?" is their general question. I tell them I've met a couple dozen really nice guys over the years, and that turns the conversation.

My parents are a little weirded out by it, but that's more of a generational thing, I think. They're in their 70s, so I can forgive it. We don't discuss it much but their comments are always along the lines of "be safe."

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 10:04am

I have only one friend who thinks OLD is a bad idea. She also thinks that blind dates are only for the desperate. I simply stopped discussing OLD with her. Everyone else is fine with it. No one else bats an eye when I tell them how I meet my dates. My family - both immediate and extended - think it's a great way to meet people and a few of my cousins and my brother are online as well. My father also used OLD for a while.


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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 10:50am

I know what you mean.

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 3:37pm

yah my friends dont get it but its because they haven't had to face singledom life for as long as i have. i really have exhausted ALL avenues of dating in real life, so OLD was my lsat option.

but im ok with telling people now. but its still those faces i get from friends. most of them know now, so its not a big deal - they just roll their eyes lovingly and are like "cool if you lik ehim, go for it"

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