Why you should not be sad about a ghost

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Why you should not be sad about a ghost
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:14am

I apologize, this is a long post.

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:34am
Great post, Stacey. I know I have gotten upset about ghosts when in reality I was mourning the loss of the fantasy I had built up in my little head. I feel lucky that my ghosts have disappeared within the first month. Someone posted here about a guy who ghosted after 3 months, after he had met her kids, they had planned a vacation. Ouch! I'd be a basket case, if that were me.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:41am

Stacey -

Great post from someone who I consider the Master of Online Dating. And I'm not kidding. You really have done an awesome job. When one thing didn't work you changed your approach and kept trying until something worked. I remember reading a lot of your posts -- and the one thing they had in common - is that you always learned and kept moving (upward) right along.

We can all take a big lesson from you imho.

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 12:07pm
LOL

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 2:45pm

Girl, you are definitely singin' my song! I so very much appreciate all that you wrote and it suddenly dawned on me that the same thing could actually apply to ppl we meet in person and date for however long. When they disappear or reject us for whatever reason, it may be a blessing in disguise!

As for OLD now, I've seen and heard it all so nothing fazes me anymore. If the guy pulls a ghost, I think it speaks of who he is as a man (or a lack thereof) and now see the disappearing act for what it is -- a blessing.

Heymum




Edited 3/14/2005 5:34 pm ET ET by heymum
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 8:11am
Exactly.

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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 9:54am

Hi Stacy,

True that! Well, if you give someone enough rope, they will hang themselves! He was acting the way he Is, which is WHY he is alone, and your maturity Surely triumphed, and You are very admirable!

Also, PLEASE tell your friends Never to accept a drink from someone they do not know--and drink it! Working where I do, I know that there are a number of substances (Rufees, Hydrocontin, etc) that can be put into a beverage and you would Not know they are there as you drink it. Soon, you are impaired enough to be raped, or, worse, you might be allergic enough to these substances to die. And what a creepazoid thing to Do, anyway...ewwwww...Lounge Lizard 101!!!

He will be there again, btw, and he will keep approaching you. He sounds like a true predator. Nay, Nay, froms Strangers Stay Away!!!!

All that aside, hope you all enjoy St Pat's--any green beer in anyone's future?

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 10:40am

Oh, yes, my friend totally knows now she shouldn't have taken the drink.

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