Will it be too soon yet?
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| Mon, 08-29-2005 - 6:29pm |
I met a guy online, much younger than me. We have been IM each other and phoning each other since April. Even so, we dont phone each other daily or weekly, it could be every 3 weeks or so. Sometimes we chat online too but not everyday either. We dont know each other in person yet. My IM him or phoning him, he has told me he feels very very attracted to me, he wants to meet me in person soon because it has been almost 5 months now and it is time to meet in person, he wants to meet me in person, he feels desires for me. Before he brought that subject to me, we IM each other and he looks like a nice guy, funny one,althoug I have to tell, in his physical part, he is cute. But I guess since he is a man, first he is interested in the physical part then he is interested in the innner part of the person.
Should I wait more time to meet him in person, if I feel comfortable to meet him or 5 months is a lot of time and I have to meet him now? I mean he is the one who wants to meet me soon because for him 5 months is a long time and we should meet, if it was me I wait more. At this moment, he is only thinking in teh physical part of me that is why he wants to meet me, although he says I look like a nice, polite girl.
I mean I have never ever met in person a guy before. I mean a guy I have met first online then in person, that has never ever happened to me before. If I meet him, only if, he will be the first guy.
Red flags here or not?

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You are playing coy and hard to get and that makes you a challenge.
Yes im inexperienced in men I have never dated before or had a boyfriend either. It is not a cultural or religious thing either. Perhaps guys dont find me interesting enough to even put attention to me. Even if for some people Im a very good looking girl, a good excuse for men to notice me, but they dont. Since I havent dated before or had a boyfriend either is why I dont have that experience of knowing men very well. So I dont what it feels like to date a guy for some time or some years or even had a boyfriend.
Perhaps I enjoy the attention indeed and that is why I should have cut contact with me the moment he started to make propositions. But I dont know why I continue to chat with me at all. Some of the times when I said I dont want to get intimate, he gets upset and question me why if Im a grown up lady, I need to experience those things, it is nothing wrong he says.
I was planning to tell him one day when we chat if he brings up the subject again to tell him that "indeed you seem like a nice guy, but I want to meet you in person only if you stop asking what you always ask me and drop the subject, otherwise I wont meet you at all".
Ana:
You are asking questions on an online dating message board. Its hard to guess why he pursues when you've told him not to, perhaps you encourage him and then pull back ...who knows. All i can tell ya is: If you want to meet him and date him do it safely. If you want advice on how to do that, post your questions. If you don't want to meet him (and i can understand because he is young) quit talking to him. End your confusion and his.
Otherwise deal with the confusion as long as you want to but don't meet this guy you are confusing so much, because as long as you are confused yourself...it won't get better.
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