Winks

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Registered: 07-10-2005
Winks
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Sun, 07-10-2005 - 9:04am

Hello to all,

Well, after a few months of lurking on this forum, I decided to post a profile on Match and to register onto this site. I've read alot of the old threads on here and have leared quite a bit about OLD. Love to hear everyone stories and everyone seems to have really, really good advice. I've already armed myself for possible ghosts!!

I posted my profile yesterday, without pics, and have already received a couple of nice e-mails from nice looking men. Im going to try to post my pics today.

My question is this:

Why "wink" rather than send an email? Along with the emails, i've received a few "winks"--it makes me a little unsure what to do- Do I wink back? Or send them an e-mail? Are the men that initially e-mail more interested than those that send a wink?

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Registered: 08-19-2004
In reply to: tracylynn34fl
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 9:16am

Not necessarily. Anyone who's been doing OLD for even a little while knows how frustrating it is to take the time to craft a nice email and get no reply. And it happens more often than not.
When someone winks at me, I email back. Keep in mind that non-paying members can only send winks (I believe that's still true - someone correct me if I'm wrong). You might want to sneak your email address into the message. I've done that a few times.
Good luck, and welcome to the board!

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Registered: 07-10-2005
In reply to: tracylynn34fl
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 9:28am

I agree that it would be frustrating to spend time creating an e-mail and then not get a response back... But then, that kind of puts the ball in my court.. I suppose that I could just wink back at them or just send them an e-mail. Its just that I'm new at this..I'm really not sure what to talk about in an e-mail, unless responding to one they sent me first.. Im sure I'll get the hang of this soon.

BTW, Im going to post my photos today and would love to get some opinions on my profile.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tracylynn34fl
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 11:09am

I assume men wink for the same reason I do: to see if there's any interested before proceeding further. If I'm interested in them, I wink back. It's up to them to take it any further.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-10-2005
In reply to: tracylynn34fl
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 11:21am

Sheri,

Yes, that is pretty much how I feel.

I feel more comfortable just winking back and letting the man take the initial move past the winking stage.

Thanks

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Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: tracylynn34fl
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 1:25am

Hi Tracy,

Welcome to the board. The more you do OLD, the easier it gets. Everyone does things differently and there are no set rules in the way to do things. Eventually you'll find out what you are comfortable with.

If a guy winks at me, I generally send a short email back to him. But I make sure it is short, like a paragraph or two. I usually ask him about something in his profile, like say he states that he enjoys hiking, I might ask him where his favorite place is to hike, or bike ride, or whatever he does.

But I try to ask about two questions (but not more), to give him something to write back about, and these questions would pertain to something stated in his profile like interests. If he has kids, I might ask how old his kids are. I start my email to him with - thanks for the wink, and end it with - I'm looking forward to hearing more about you. After all, what person doesn't like to talk about themselves! ;)

I also usually wait until the following day to send my email, not on the same day.

You'll eventually get a feel for doing OLD and what works best for you. I don't like to email too long before having a phone conversation, then getting to the meeting. I do OLD to meet guys, not to become email or IM buddies.

Good luck to you!

Sunshine