Wish Lists

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wish Lists
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Wed, 01-19-2005 - 11:17am
You know how some people seem to have a pretty specific wish list when they describe what they're looking for? What if....as it happens...you pretty much possess all or most of the characteristics/traits on that wish list? Would you try to pursue matters or are wish lists a turn-off no matter what b/c realistically one should be flexible and not so picky b/c "fantasy" matches don't really exist?

 

 

 

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Registered: 08-12-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 11:34am
IN all honesty, I gave up the "wish list" this year as one of my goals. Now what I have are deal-breakers that hinge on my values (i.e. honesty, openness, intelligence, goals, similar values/standards, etc.)....the "he must be 6', dark hair, green eyes" is a fantasy but I've realized so NOT necessary when it comes to the real thing.....

Michelle

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Registered: 05-20-2004
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 11:36am

Well being that I am from Ky...Here are a few of my wish lists

1-Has full set of teeth

2-Doesn't have a toilet on the front deck of his trailer full of ice and beer

3-Doesn't call me sis

4-Doesn't consider going to Wal-Mart a family vacation

5-Doesn't try to list "draw" as a profession...such as drawing a check, not in the artisitic sense.

6-Doesn't sent me a picture of two different styles of 1970's mobile homes he some how finagled together so know he has a double wide.

I don't know...Am I being too picky here?




Edited 1/19/2005 11:38 am ET ET by truewild1969

 

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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 11:38am

Here's the thing. I came across someone who had a wish list. I thought.... oh lordy could you be any more specific about what you want? And some of his "requirements" were kind of pushing it IMO. But as I read through it - I thought, "Well....I pretty much do seem to fit his criteria" - even the fantastical ones.

 

 

 

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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 11:46am

People with wish lists tend to be difficult to satisfy. They aren't drawing from life, are they, but from a fantasy world where their partner is perfect and the relationship effortless.

I started OLD with a wish list only because I had to fill out that darn questionnaire. In actual fact, I welcome my future bf and his uniqueness, all his foibles and lack of ideal height.

Most importantly, over the past few months I have learned what my deal breakers are. There are two: a) separated men need not apply, ever! and b) must not be embroiled in ex problems. I have already ignored b) once which is a good thing because now I REALLY know it's a deal breaker!!

Good thread, jh.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 12:00pm

People with wish lists tend to be difficult to satisfy.


See...that's what I'm thinking. I might fit the criteria he listed in his profile - but he might have a whole slew of other requirements that I don't know about yet. I'm leaning towards thinking that someone like this might be very controlling and critical.

 

 

 

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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 12:57pm
True we cannot impose our wish list in real life. you meet someone and feel something for them regardless of your "demands" and you decide to pursue a relationship... I think if there is a place where one can afford enforcing the wish list rules, it is online.
You know there are 100's of singles there and the number keeps growing so you dont have to settle for people you have nt even met!
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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 3:21pm

Wow - you guy's really don't have a list of what you're looking for?


I've narrowed it down to:



  • +/- 5 years my age

  • Has kids +/- 3 years of mine

  • Not in the process of exiting a relationship

  • Physically and mentally fit

  • Close proximity - +/- 15 miles

  • Not a partier/drinker/out every night person

  • Goal oriented

The biggest eye opener that I received from OLD was how relatively unimportant looks were in the person that I was meeting. If they didn't come close to meeting my criteria - I generally wasn't interested no matter how they looked. Perhaps I'm unusual in that respect. Or maybe I'm turning into a chick.


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 3:25pm
I don't know Jodie---you might have to lower your standards just a wee bit!

Michelle

Fill with mingled cream and amber,
I will drain that glass again.
Such hilarious vis

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Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 5:00pm

JH...


Pianoguy LOVES this question.


Wish lists are usually based on the types of people we've connected with in our past.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 5:10pm

So

 

 

 

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