Won't give up

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Won't give up
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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 9:43am
Well, it seems that I have a guy that simply won't give up. I wrote in for advice awhile back about this guy. He lives in my town. I mistakenly asked him to my first on the first visit (I know, I know..I won't EVER do this again.). We had a nice meet. But I later found out that he had been jailed before for domestic abuse with his then-married-to ex-wife. I took everyone's advice and simply stopped contact with him. No explanations. He texted me on my cell a couple of times, wrote me an email. I blocked him online (or so I'd thought). I haven't heard from him in a couple of weeks now. Then, this morning, he has emailed me on my back up email address. I know I can simply block this guy here, also. But what's next? I'm worried that he might come to my house wanting an explanation. Yes, I know this is why we don't invite guys to our house. But I did it and its done. I hestitate on responding because I don't want to add fuel to the fire. Any advice? Should I simply block him on my backup email addy also? No explanation? Lie and tell him I'm seeing someone else and block him? I certainly don't want to tell him that I know about the domestic charge.
Thanks so much.
Jeanie
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 11:04am

Yikes, I'm sorry to hear that! I would block him with no explanation...I think he will take any response as encouragement.

And being the nervous type, I would also probably call the police and just ask for their suggestions on what precautions you could and should take.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 12:09pm

Yes, just block again and no answer.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 4:19am
With a history of DV in this guys past, I would block him AND file a harassment police report if he contacts you in ANY other way other than email ... eg: phone, or God forbid, in person. & whatever you do ... NEVER give him a chance to be alone with you. Thank you for the lesson, sorry its at your expense. Good luck & stay safe! R~
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