Words of wisdom from Oprah

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Words of wisdom from Oprah
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 9:50pm

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not
meant to
be.
Slower is better.Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes
you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as
you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably
is. Don't
stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things
are not
better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of
different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any
differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something
bothers you,
speak up.

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you
later.

You cannot change a man's behaviour.* Change comes from
within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
even if he
has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is
two way
street.

You need time to healbetween relationships...there is nothing
cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a
relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complimentary...not
supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you
are, and
you're always readily available to him - he takes it for
granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything
that you
need.* Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...
You'll make
someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman
prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and
an entire lifetime to forget them.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in
relationships
that are abusive or hurtful : DrPhill

You should know that you're the best thing that could ever
happen to
anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good
thing. If he
was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not
the only
one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.
Make the
right one.

Ladies take care of your own hearts....

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Registered: 05-12-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 9:15am
It's good advice, but my friend has been married 10 years and her husband has three other children by three other women. They appear happy.