Would u set a deadline......
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|Sun, 07-27-2003 - 4:26am|
When you meet a guy online who seems to be serious with you and vice versa and all seems fallin’ into right places, do u ask him to meet you now when you noticed that he is taking this time for a person-to-person meeting? Tell us about what u think and what works best for u..
The very 1st guy I met online (still innocent in the world of online dating) was an Asian too but diff. country from mine. Anyway, we talked for several months, and thinking that he is already the ‘one’ (or so I thought), I decided to ask him to meet me in person and come over to our country. After that, things slowly changed, red flags become so clear. He gave me non-sense alibis and reasons for not coming over. I played blind over it and gave him a second chance, but thank God I went out of that boring relationship. I broke up with him on a new year’s eve because I can see that relationship is going nowhere. But it gave me a lesson.
**Met few other guys too before meeting Joe.
But with Joe right now, it’s a lot lot different; I need not ask him to meet me coz after several months of online talking, phone calls, webcaming, exchanging cards/gifts, he already told me that he is serious and have plans of coming over here, meeting me and everybody else. But we can’t meet right away coz of different factors, 1st he is Michigan while im here in the Phils, 2nd financial, he needs to save 1st , 3rd work schedule (he is running a business).
Right now I’m taking my time knowing him better online daily. So we will see, I have not set any deadline for him to meet me (I hope I will not use that option)…..I will only set a deadline (limit) if I think the relationship is goin tooooooo long enough that I can’t wait anymore.
So that’s me, what is your opinion?
Good to be back,