Would you call the day after sex?
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| Tue, 03-01-2005 - 4:37pm |
Would you absolutely make sure that you would call within 24 hours, and not wait until the following day to call? Even if it turned out that you weren't that interested in the other person? Would it make a difference if the sex was bad or good?
To me, waiting two days is too long - I like to hear from the other person the very next day - I sort of feel its at least courteous.
Please note: I don't really want to get into a discussion about whether or not to have sex outside of a long term committed relationship. I'm just wondering if you think it's common courtesy for the guy to at least call the girl the day after, regardless of whether it's good or bad. I just sort of feel that 2 days is being a jerk, especially if the guy is just putsing around the next day - I mean, at least take 5 frekin minutes out of your day to give a courtesy call.

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Were you raised by wolves? LOL
I bet even Yukon would scratch on the door the next day.
I don't know if it is 'emotions' per se. I just think it is courteous. And I would especially think someone in their mid 30's through mid 50's is quite capable of picking of the phone for a 5 minute courteous "hi, how are you". No relationship strings attached. No emotions involved. No deep feelings that weren't there before. Just common courtesy.
If the guy doesn't call (and I've had that happen before as well) it reminds me too much of college days.
If he doesn't call you the next day, in most cases... you have already been dismissed.
No need to launch him yourself, that ship has probably already sailed.
Personally, if I am going to sleep with him, it is only after I am 99% confident that I don't have to play this will he/won't he call me. If he is a gentleman and he is into you, he will call. If the sex was bad or he doesn't want to see you again, he won't call. I personally don't want a 'thanks for the sex, but I don't want to see you again' call.
If I am not confident he will call, it means one to many margarita's probably got the better of me and I would rather he didn't call to save us both the embarrasement of acknolwedging bad judgement.
Edited 3/1/2005 7:33 pm ET ET by theclevergirl
Why would that blow your mind? If a guy has sex with a woman he's casual dating, the only difference is THAT NIGHT, he had sex after the date. No big deal*.
But if the guy KNOWS that women like to hear from a guy the next day, he should make the phone call a priority. If your friend thinks her guy KNOWS, then that says a lot about what he thinks of her; if he really doesn't have a clue... then his inaction is meaningless.
*I'm not trying to minimize First Time Sex. In the context of the discussion, I'm just saying that some guys don't KNOW how much a woman likes to hear her phone ring the day after.
Not being sexually active at this moment, but hoping to be, I decided, just recently, that in fact I would let any man KNOW--no matter how close we are--that I expect a phone call the next day after we first sleep together. No point in expecting men to figure out these "fine points" of etiquette.
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