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| Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:28am |
For 6 months i have e-mailing,talking to this man i met online.The phone calls are longer all the time and we have so much in common He would like to pay for me to come down for 4 days to visit.
I would stay in a hotel.Thing is i want to pay half the fare he won't hear of it.Where he comes from gentlemen pay for everything.I guess what i am trying to say is i get there we don't click but he figures i owe him then what?
So would you go?
I would stay in a hotel.Thing is i want to pay half the fare he won't hear of it.Where he comes from gentlemen pay for everything.I guess what i am trying to say is i get there we don't click but he figures i owe him then what?
So would you go?

Hi Justme,
Why don't you suggest he fly to your town instead, stay in a hotel there and you can meet him somewhere out like a restaurant or something, NOT at his hotel. That way it is on your turf where *you* feel comfortable, and he hasn't paid for you to stay in a hotel so he shouldn't feel that you owe him anything! Turn the tables and see what he says. Just tell him you would feel more comfortable doing it this way. If he doesn't want to do it then I'd wonder why and it would be a red flag for me.
Yes you have been emailing and talking on the phone for 6 months (A VERY long time without meeting!), but until you meet him in real life, you won't know if there is really chemistry there or not. Many people are very disappointed when they talk for lengthy amounts of time and then when they finally have a face-to-face meet, they are disappointed that there is no attraction there.
If you don't like him if he does decide to coe to you, I wouldn't feel obligated to keep entertaining him either for the whole time he is there. Hopefully you haven't given him too much personal info in case he would turn into a stalker type.
He may be a really nice guy, but people can portray themselves as totally different or who they *think* you want them to be online and on the phone. Nothing can compare with real life meets to get a dose of reality!
Good luck to you and keep us posted.
Sunshine
Wow, 6 months is a long time to have not met someone.
Personally, I think each person should meet at a 1/2 way point. I chatted with someone for about 3 months and then we decided to meet at a 1/2 way point. We were five hours apart, so we drove for 2.5 hours and met in a small town and found a restaurant and chatted. Based upon the conversation, I was really feeling him and when I met him I was hooked. Unfortunately, he was not!!
Both of you guys can take a flight or car drive to a city and meet. Also, if he insists on paying, then he should travel to your area to meet!
I've also had friends who traveled as far as California to meet a guy (talked for 6-months), they met, he was not interested and basically never saw her again -- didn't even return her phone calls from the hotel. She, of course, had went for the whole week but hooked up with family members and enjoyed her stay.
Whatever you decide though, hope it works out for you but be SMART!!! Hopefully wherever you travel or decide to meet, have other plans in place -- just in case -- or just do an overnight stay!!
Good Luck!! Let us know what happens!!
I totally would not go down there.
CL-Truewild1969
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Then you write him a check or give him cash for half of what he spent on the trip. You don't OWE him anything more than that.