Would you initiate contact or respond...

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2005
Would you initiate contact or respond...
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Sat, 10-29-2005 - 6:36am

Would you initiate contact or respond to a profile that does not have a picture?



  • Yes, there are many reasons why someone may not have a photo posted
  • Maybe, it depends on the situation
  • No, I won't even consider it
  • Other (Please explain)


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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-2005
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 12:04pm
In my age group at least (40s & 50s), I have found that men with professional jobs and/or jobs in the public eye frequently do not post a picture. However, they do send one when asked. That's how I weed them out. If I ask for a pic (which I always do) and they don't respond then either they're not interested in me or they're married. But if they do send a photo then I think they're probably legit. Having said that, I will tell you that if I end up meeting them for coffee and think I'd like to see them again (and vice versa) I do check them out. Call their work # to see if they really work there, look them up in the phone book to see if they live where they say they do, google them, ask friends of mine in their profession if they know him, etc. All this I do covertly - not to stalk but to protect myself. I was burned very badly (a post in itself!) once and learned the hard way that people you meet online are not always who they say they are. However, it doesn't always have to do with whether or not they post a picture.