Would you meet a boring guy?
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| Tue, 01-31-2006 - 6:18pm |
OK, my experience has been that if they are boring in their profiles, and boring in their emails, they are also boring when you meet them for coffee. Am I right to think that? I got an email from a guy (can't remember anything about him from his email besides that, he claims, we have common interests)... the only thing that is interesting for me is that we are both from Europe... Question is: is he just a bad writer , but not necessarily boring to hang out with?--he would send me these two liners, (while I truly engage what he said and answered his questions) and finish with banal compliments -- how pretty and smart I am) He invited me for coffee. HAven't spoken on the phone with him (he didn't say anything, just put his number at the end of his message)...
Should I bother? Have you ever had "a bore" turn into a fun guy you like talking to?
P.S I really have a thing for articulate, funny (as in smart and funny, not just goof-ball funny; a Freiser, not a Joey) and engaging men, so may be I shouldn't even meet him?

I would say at least give him one phone call. You can get a pretty good feel for someone over the phone. If you still think he's boring and you don't have much to talk about, then you can move on knowing that you gave it a chance.
I do agree, though, that often those first instincts ring true. However, I have been pleasantly surprised in some cases.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Well, I generally need to "feel" something in the tone of the profile if I want to pursue things further. Something needs to grab me. But in all fairness, some people just aren't very good at conveying themselves on paper. That's where the phone comes into play. If he doesn't pass the test there, it's highly doubtful I'll be going out with him.
I love it when a guy can express himself well in his profile. A wicked sense of humor is a must, or at least, a communicative writing ability.
So in answer. No. I wouldn't date a boring guy. But you did make a good point- my experiences have also shown that behind a boring profile or boring emails is someone who is boring in person too!
"P.S I really have a thing for articulate, funny (as in smart and funny, not just goof-ball funny; a Freiser, not a Joey) and engaging men, so may be I shouldn't even meet him?"
Sounds you are a lot like me and I wouldn't bother.
I've found that people's personalities have atched their profiles and if they are boring, plain or uninteresting, they were that way in person. I fact, I just wrote a thread on this board on this very topic (see Empty Profiles on the next page).
I'm the type of person that needs to be around people who have much to say, strong opinions and can be engaging, fun and adventurous. If I ge none of this from a profile, I hit delete.
I wouldn't write him off just yet. He may just be a bad writer. One guy I dated from match was one of those 2 line emailers. It just turned out he was a very slow one-fingered typist and didn't have a lot of patience with that form of communication. It was torturous watching him at the computer. LOL. He turned out to be a funny guy.
Give him a call or tell him to feel free to call you and see what happens, and like another poster said, should you meet him and he really is a bore, it's only been an hour out of your life. You never can tell.
Good Luck
Michele
I usually can tell from the phone if I'm going to go on a date with someone. Emails and profiles aren't necessarily a sure sign someone is boring, heck I didn't even write my profile my friend did.
If I talk on the phone with someone and they are boring I won't go out with them.
E