Would you meet a ghost again?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Would you meet a ghost again?
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Sat, 10-22-2005 - 11:53pm
I met a guy last year through online dating. we decided to meet up again chatted for some time later but never really met again and so I blocked him.
Then I deleted my profile. few days ago I decided to put my profile back up so I did with a new picture. So yesterday I got a smile from a guy which I found cute and so I smiled back. he sent me a message with his backstage pass. It turned out he is the same guy I met last year. Should I reply and tell him that we ve met b4 or should I ignore his message... do I meet him again or it will be a waste of time
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 1:53am
Why give him a chance to reject you twice? Believe me, if he ghosted once he'll do it again.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2005
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 4:33am
No way.....never.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 8:54am

The only person I ever met again that ghosted on me was someone I was in a relationship with not from a one time meet. And when we met up again I told him ghosting wasn't cool and he was cowardly for doing it. I liked watching him squirm.

If you are interested in seeing him again, then send him a note that you two have already met xx months ago/years and explain the "set up" of your date. He could have met someone the very next night and just fell hard for that person and just didn't really pursue you. Doesn't mean he didn't like you.

If once bitten twice shy is your motto then just ignore him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-1999
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 12:53pm

I have heard stories where people went out once. Then their lives got busy, or they misplaced a number, or they were too shy to call back. So they didn't contact the other person at all for another month, but then when they went out a second time, they really hit it off. But this is a bit different since he doesn't even know it's you he's contacting again.

Also, there was a reason why you blocked him the first time. I'm thinking that either you sensed he wasn't really interested in you and/or you weren't really interested in him. If you were getting the sense that he wasn't somebody you wanted to continue chatting with and getting to know, or you were getting the sense that he was only continuing chatting with you on-line out of politeness and not because he truly wanted to, then I don't see what the point of talking to him again would be. If I'm wrong, though, and you did find it enjoyable speaking with him, and he seemed to be making an effort to stay in contact with you, but you just weren't able to fit seeing each other into your schedules at the time, then you may want to try again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 1:01pm

It sounds like he doesn't remember you, so in this case I would say no, I wouldn't meet him. It would be different if he contacted you after the hiatus and remembered you and wanted to reconnect. But that doesn't sound to be the case here.


Like another poster said, why set yourself up for rejection again. There are too many fish in the sea to be hooked by one that swam away w/o regret...


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2005
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 10:28pm

Absolutely, positively, no way.

I would not respond, re-block him and not give him another thought.