Would you meet this man?
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| Fri, 10-28-2005 - 6:00pm |
First of all, let me clarify that I have never dated someone who is not divorced.....separation is usually a dealbreaker for me.
This situation is a bit different.
I received an email from a man who told me he saw my profile and was interested. He, also, told me that he would HONESTLY answer any questions I have. I wrote back and asked him what he meant by that and if he was truly divorced. He said that they are in the process of divorcing.
This is what he told me:
-His wife has dealt with depression, sought medical help in 2001 to no avail and finally left him to return to Ireland in October 2003. He went to Ireland 3 times to try to get her to come back (from October 2003-October 2004). She would not come back. He was left to raise their now 5 year old son. He said that he has no feelings left for her and is ready to move on.
Do you think it's a big risk to meet this man?

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>I'm so tired of liars justifying their lies.
I ABSOLUTELY AGREE!!!!!
"A person who lies about small matters cannot be trusted with important ones"
>Do you think it's a big risk to meet this man?
Haven't you been reading about other people's experiences? It's a risk meeting anyone, especially from OLD. Very few people are who they say they are.
>He, also, told me that he would HONESTLY answer any questions I have.
Really? So all the people who have lied to you before actually told you they were lying to start with!? Usually only liars need to reinforce the fact that they are being HONEST. I don't understand why anyone would need to specify it. Makes you wonder why his wife left him doesn't it?
"This will be the LAST time honey, I PROMISE"....etc..etc...etc...
>He went to Ireland 3 times to try to get her to come back
If this is true then he won't be "over" her yet. He is looking for a quick fix. Why can't he just wait until he *IS* divorced before starting something new? This is a RED FLAG to me because you may get dragged into something ugly.
I totally agree with you too Hal 9000
His wife is dealing with depression.
Depression usually has 2 origins A) Genetic Predisposition B)Environmental
So whilst we dont know if the reason is A or B. be careful.
That she is depressed and has gone back to ireland is a red flag and dude is opaque about his marital status as well.
Its more logical that a person will leave a person or circumstance that is either causing or making their depression worse.
I know at least 2 men whose first wives were depressed and all subsequent girlfriends or wives ended up with sadness issues (quite telling)
Is he truly planning on divorcing or is he laying foundation for having his wife in the picture while he dates freely.
supposing he is not altogether innocent of the aetiology of his wifes depression
::::I know at least 2 men whose first wives were depressed and all subsequent girlfriends or wives ended up with sadness issues (quite telling)::::
So true from my experiences....my last SO was depressed and it really affected me....one of the reasons I got out.
What seems even shadier is she's out of the country, if she went back to Ireland to take care of a dying family member you wouldn't know either, she could have went back there to take care of someone just two weeks ago left her son there due too school issues and will be back in 6 months and hubby wants to "play" while she's gone.
Too risky in my opinion.
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