would you move on?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
would you move on?
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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 8:57pm

I met a guy on OLD and we clicked right away been on a few dates so far (6-7 dates) and things were great, chemistry, common interests, conversation ... met his friends and broher and liked them. I m so attracted to him.
when we were still chatting, he msged my girl friend on the site (before we meet)
and decided he will meet up with her one day.
She did not know I was chatting with the same guy.
So she went on a business trip for 10 days and they decided to meet when she comes back.
in the meantime, we met for dinner and things got advanced between us , he stayed over once, we made love few times and we spent all Sat together and he told me he is so attracted to me... then my friend came back and she messaged him and suggested to meet on Sunday. He gave her his cell phone and asked her to call him to set a time/place. When I met my friend( we are v. close) she showed me his profile n I told her that we have been seeing each other for a while. She decided not to contact him anymore.
I know my friend is being v. decent by deciding not to see him but I m not sure I want to see him again. He is not aware we are friends btw.
I m not saying he has to be exclusive right away but I have a bad feeling when someone tells me he is v. interested in me while still open to other options.

So what really bothers me is all this talk about how much he likes me when on his last night in town (b4 traveling for a month) he decided to reserve it to meet this other girl which he has never met b4 ( my friend who did not even call him that night)
I was turned off by this but dont know whether I should ignore this incident and give him another chance.
my gut feeling tells me I should move on. What do you think?




Edited 11/20/2005 10:25 pm ET by juliara2003
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 9:59pm

You're not exclusive and he can date whomever regardless if it's your friend (does he know this by the way?). I understand what you're saying, you want a guy to be so into you that he's not contacting other women but the reality of it is that for most guys it takes them a while to emotionally connect to you whereas for us women it seems like as soon as we sleep with them our emotions take over. So maybe not sleep with the next guy until you come to an agreement....not sure what to tell you as dating is hard ....

SP

 
 
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 10:19am

>>my gut feeling tells me I should move on.


That's all that matters, right?

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 11:00am

Hindsight being 20/20 I would have asked for exclusivity a while ago. But you didn't so he is free to date anyone he wishes.

However, knowing what you know now, the situation wouldn't sit well with me. If it were me, I'd be moving on.