Would you recommend eharmony?

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Would you recommend eharmony?
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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:43am

Hi everybody!

I've done match.com and yahoo personals. I was considering eharmony, but I don't really know if it is worth it. Do they let you do searches? (the whole process seems too structured)? Those of you who have tried it, are you satisfied with the results? I don't know to what extent their "new scientific approach to match making" really works, vs being simply a marketing gimmick... I did their homongous questionnaire (over 350 questions), and my psychological profile seems to be pretty accurate...yet, I don't want to go into it with too high expectations.

Honestly, I am tired of meeting men on the other dating sites, whose biggest assets -- judging by their profiles -- turn to be their most serious problems... like this guy, whose header read "keep it simple" and he turned out to be this hyperanalyzing, baggage-ridden nutcase who drove me crazy in the 3 weeks that we were dating... I know, I know I am responsible for my choices, but do you think that eharmony's suposedly more evolved matchmaking process can really help you weed out the incompatible people (I am skeptic, to tell you the truth)? Well, I really need your advice!

Thanks

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 3:05pm

Well, again, I want to make sure it's clear that's not exclusive to eH (why do I feel like their great defender here?

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 05-05-2006
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 3:32pm
It wasn't my intent to bash eharmony, I know people who have had success with this and other OLD sites, I just wanted to offer an experience so that people don't believe that a screening method removes dishonesty. I did think it was irresponsible for eharmony to not follow up on the complaint. That's just an opinion
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Registered: 11-07-2005
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 1:11pm

I'll help you defend e-harmony! I was married Sept. 18th to the most wonderful man in the world (IMO) who was a match from e-harmony! I was on match.com and found it more work than it was worth. While it's not full-proof (nothing is...) I found the compatibility matching to be top-notch, and you can choose how restrictive(or not) your matching process is. It's totally up to you. My DH and I are perfectly matched, we enjoy the same hobbies, love the same foods, and share the same personal and professional ambitions. We were able to "skip all that getting to know you stuff" as he says...we met in person for the first time on New Years Eve and he started proposing to me in February...I finally accepted in May (I had been married twice before, with no intention of getting hitched again...our only disagreement!) and we were married in Sept. As has been said before, nothing works for everyone, but I found my matches on e-harmony (as a whole) were much more serious, professional and honest about what they wanted than those from match.com. Just my oppinion, but it worked for me!!

Shanna

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 9:16am
Well unfortunately your boyfriend was still single so while your friend may have been feeling as though she was doing eharmony a good service, she could have been a disgruntled date and how were they to know she was being honest with them. Unless he is married, he has every right to be on the site.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 9:18am

I agree. I think match happens to be the worst offender out there for the player. While eharmony is different if you live in an area where a lot of people aren't using their services then you aren't going to get a lot of matches, obviously in mitsys case men in her area weren't using the services, that's not eharmonys fault. LOL

I find match to be worse and worse as the years go on, they get more and more restrictive and while eharmony is expensive, they have deals all the time. So while 60 dollars for one month is expensive 60 for 3 months is not.

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