Would you use eHarmony again?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Would you use eHarmony again?
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Wed, 08-09-2006 - 9:52am

Would you use eHarmony again?



  • Yes - I liked it a lot
  • Maybe - it was so-so
  • No - it was terrible


You will be able to change your vote.


AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 08-14-2006
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 3:13am
eHarmony won't have me. Simple as that. Apparently I don't fit in their profiles...
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Registered: 08-16-2005
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 8:33am

No I'm baffled why people complain about distance when they set the parameters of how far they want to go. But when surveyed by eharmony I did tell them that they should lessen their parameters, rather than just 20 and then jumping to 100 miles, they could lessen it in 5 mile increments so it's not such a HUGE jump.

But again, it's not a huge deal if you don't want to date people in CT just close them.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 9:44am

Yeah, I understood your points about e-harmony. I know that they don't match for likes/dislikes and so forth. I was saying that IMHO, they SHOULD.

My point was that FOR ME their "twenty nine point matching system" (or whatever) needed different "points." In the end, "lifestyle" may be as important as (if not more important than) "personality." And I didn't find they gave me enough matches. And I didn't like it that I didn't get to really talk to my match until a slow exchange of canned responses. I was not impressed with their matches. I did not like their set up.

That is just me. I am not saying e-harmony won't work for other people. I am saying it didn't work for me and why.

If it works for you, that is great.

Elsa

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 1:49pm

I hear you, too bad you didn't get one of the surveys that they were giving out, it was fun to take and give my opinion to them of their service and what I felt could be better and changes they could do to make it better (price, the distance thing etc)

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 12:14pm

Thanks for your input, everyone. I was on vacation for a bit and just checked the boards today.

I took the test and posted a free profile, just to see what kind of matches I'd get. So far, they look decent. However, regarding the "likes and dislikes" discussion -- they matched me with one guy who is 5'5" and one who is 5'7". I am 5'9", and specified that my date's height was very important to me (my height or taller). I do think that there are some factors you should be able to specify - like location, age, lifestyle.

I agree with Elsa -- some lifestyle preferences are just as important as personality match. For example, I live in Colorado. There are a lot of hard-core outdoorsy guys here. I love the outdoors, but I don't feel the need to jump off cliffs on my mountain bike on a daily basis. So, finding someone who is more laid back that way is very important to me.

I'm still on the fence about joining.

In regard to price - my friend who signed up had given me some bad information, so it's not as economical as I thought. The price offered to me is $60 for three months or $40 for one month.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 12:16pm

>>eHarmony won't have me. Simple as that. Apparently I don't fit in their profiles...<<

That's bizarre. Did they give you an explanation?

If their system is so scientific, they should be able to match anyone.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 1:09pm
This apparently isn't all that uncommon. Some guy on another board mentioned in passing that the same thing had happened to him and a friend of an acquaintance also was told by eharmony that she couldn't be matched. The speculation was that the friend (a wonderful person) had given just a couple of inconsistent answers and the computer hadn't known how to categorize her.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 1:11pm
When I first signed up, I searched the internet and found a coupon for $20 off a three month membership. Maybe you can find a coupon, but isn't $60 for 3 months comparable to Match.com?
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 1:28pm
I was wrong again - it's $60 for one month and something like $115 for three months. If I sign up, I will definitely find a coupon.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 08-14-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 4:36pm

>>"Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time."<<

And I've taken it twice. Talk about a waste of time.




Edited 8/18/2006 4:38 pm ET by gaby362