Wouldja mind checking my profiles...?
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Wouldja mind checking my profiles...?
| Sat, 03-26-2005 - 5:21pm |
I decided that I want to try dating... AGAIN... so I put new profiles on two sites. I'd love some feedback.
Match.com "smilingeyes_66"
LoveandSeek.com "smilingeyes66"
I was on eHarmony for a few weeks, and there was NO movement, at all. Stopped that one.
Thanks, tons!
Barb

I looked at your profile on match, and it looks good, I think! There was a typo towards the end (solely was missing an "l") but that's all I have on the text...it's a good essay, I think.
The only other thing I noticed was that you put "not sure" for wanting kids, but then "2" in how many. That struck me as a little odd...you're not sure if you want kids at all, but you know you want 2? If you're really not sure about kids, I'd leave those follow up questions re how many and adoption blank. And if you *are* sure you want them, be upfront about it.
Hope you have some luck and meet some good guys!
Sheri
Your pictures are great - the exact type that I think you should have.
Your opening:
"Life is in the living!! Confident, easy-going, happy woman looking for laughter and, just maybe, a relationship..."
Made me groan because I thought "oh great - another opportunity to take someone out who just might want to be in a relationship but probably wants to be friends"
The wording in the body of your profile is ok - but it's all over the place (very general - ie. like to stay in or go out , dress up or be in sweats --- it's too general - everyone likes to do that unless they are incarcerated and then they just like to stay in). In removing specifics you've really tried to cover every base of what you possibly would want to do. I think there is danger in being so generic -- do you really want to match up with every guy out there? The more you can list exactly what you enjoy doing (for example you mention taking class but not WHAT class).
Thanks for your comments... I have edited the opening line (you're right on that one, for sure!)
A couple points you made confused me, though. I looked for the "like to stay in or go out , dress up or be in sweats" line that you mentioned... and I can't find it. Can you show me where it is? Also, you wrote, "for example you mention taking class but not WHAT class." I list what classes I'm taking, Spanish and rock-climbing (see below).
Thanks for your comments on the pictures! It was a hard choice....
(I cut and pasted my essay from Match... when you look up my profile, is this the same thing you see? It's what I see).
I'm an easy-going, independent, professional woman who enjoys life. I am often described as funny, open-minded, reliable and attractive. I am curious about EVERYthing. I have no particular "passions" for hobbies. I'm more of a jack-of-all-trades, exploring varieties of activities, rather than settling on any one thing. I frequently take classes for education and enjoyment. This term it was Spanish, Spring term it's rock-climbing. My evenings can vary greatly... I might get home from work, get drive-thru food and vegetate with a video. Or, I might get home, do chores, and head out to class. Or, I might meet with the girls for martini's and Sex in the City on DVD. I love to laugh! I tend to see most curcumstances in light of their humorous possibilites. I'm easy-going, and don't upset easily. And, if I do get upset, I don't play games... I'll just say so. Emotional head-games are for the weak-of-heart! I do enjoy trying new things, but am equally content with the familiar. I like to exercise, and try to watch what I eat, but I'm just not a food or fitness natzi. I am human, and understanding, and typically a very happy person. I am looking for a man who is similar! I enjoy someone who is relaxed with himself, has a sense of humor, and is reliable. I would enjoy meeting a man who is comfortable going out to a nice dinner and movie, going to Saturday Market, or watching a video on the couch with me and a pizza! An open mind is very important to me. I'd like to be able to talk about a variety of topics with an engaging and considerate partner. As I have a good and fullfilling life, I'd like someone who has his own life, too, and won't rely soley upon me for his every social outlet. On that same note, I'd like to meet someone who is available for a relationship, and will make time for me--as I will for him. Once some closeness is established, I'm very tactile, and would like a man who is, as well. Since I own a dog, I'd like to meet someone who likes dogs.
Sheri, thanks for your sharp eyes! I've fixed the kid-thing, and the "solely", but have to wait for their approval, now.
I hope I have a few fun dates, too... I got frustrated last time, and gave-up. I'm trying to do this lightly, this time. :-)
Barb
sorry, I was just using the stay in / go out -- sweats -- as an example of the type of thing that is often written. The activities become so generic that they could apply to just about any person. And once that happens online becomes more of a beauty contest.
There is nothing wrong with your profile. It's better than 90% online.
I'd just work the text so that it appeals primarily to your target audience. Focus intensely on quality over quantity.