Hey, that's great! I'm glad to hear it. I hope he calls, but even if he doesn't, I somehow find those kinds of first meets encouraging (even if they don't work out) because it at least shows there are decent guys online, even if that particular person doesn't turn out to be right for me.
Vex, Coming out of lurking to say, I'm so glad to hear that you had a great first meet and that I hope he calls you. And also to offer my support in sending him a quick thank you email. Often times, I think the 'thank you's' can get lost when you've just had a good first meet and are trying to figure out the right way to end things...a hand shake, quick hug, peck on the cheek etc and then you wonder if he heard you say thank you. When I was doing OLD I always followed up with a quick thank you if it was someone I was interested in seeing again. It just seemed like the right thing to do.
I agree on the follow up email. I used to be against it but now I'm for it. I have had a few who said they appreciated the note as they thought was being polite and wasn't really interested. I think with OLD people become jaded a bit and just assume the worst, heck I do too sometimes as it gets you down when things aren't going your way.
I had a great first meet last Friday - he even asked me out to dinner in the middle of this guessing game (I was trying to guess his middle name) saying if I agreed to go to dinner at such and such restaurant I could tell him then(I was trying to figure out his middle name) I got so excited/caught up in the game I side stepped his question and said I want to figure this out now, can't wait that long. At the end of the night we hugged and both agreed we'd like to go out again. I followed up with an email, he replied but no mention of a date, I followed up again saying again "looking forward to going out again soon" but no word. But remember, we're all dating he may have met a better match or after further thought decided I wasn't for him. But the moral is w/out going for it you'll never know. That 'he's just not that into you' is fine but about two months ago I did a follow up and the guy was happy I did otherwise he thought I wasn't interested.
I'm of the mind that if the guy is interested, he'll be glad to get the email, and if he's not, it won't hurt because he's already not interested ;-). BUT, I much prefer that the guy contact me first, because where it gets tricky is if I send a follow up email and he responds but he's ambiguous in his interest, so you don't know if he's just responding and even asking you out again ONLY because you prodded him into doing so--I hate being in that limbo so I prefer to wait for the guy to contact me...that way I *know* he's at least interested enough to take the initiative and follow up.
I don't know about a movie, but I remember an episode of "The Facts of Life" where George Clooney was a guest star way before he was famous and he said "I'm vexed." It was his dictionary word of the week. I think he said it to Blair or Natatlie when they were in some storage room. I don't know how I remember that....anyway, I'm glad you had a good first meet. My very first first meet is tomorrow - I hope it goes as well as yours did!
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Hey, that's great! I'm glad to hear it. I hope he calls, but even if he doesn't, I somehow find those kinds of first meets encouraging (even if they don't work out) because it at least shows there are decent guys online, even if that particular person doesn't turn out to be right for me.
Sheri
I hope he calls too because honestly, I don't want JUST a nice evening with this guy.
Vex,
Coming out of lurking to say, I'm so glad to hear that you had a great first meet and that I hope he calls you. And also to offer my support in sending him a quick thank you email. Often times, I think the 'thank you's' can get lost when you've just had a good first meet and are trying to figure out the right way to end things...a hand shake, quick hug, peck on the cheek etc and then you wonder if he heard you say thank you. When I was doing OLD I always followed up with a quick thank you if it was someone I was interested in seeing again. It just seemed like the right thing to do.
Good luck!
Libra
Hey libra!
Well, there ya go! Good Luck!
Libra
I agree on the follow up email. I used to be against it but now I'm for it. I have had a few who said they appreciated the note as they thought was being polite and wasn't really interested. I think with OLD people become jaded a bit and just assume the worst, heck I do too sometimes as it gets you down when things aren't going your way.
I had a great first meet last Friday - he even asked me out to dinner in the middle of this guessing game (I was trying to guess his middle name) saying if I agreed to go to dinner at such and such restaurant I could tell him then(I was trying to figure out his middle name) I got so excited/caught up in the game I side stepped his question and said I want to figure this out now, can't wait that long. At the end of the night we hugged and both agreed we'd like to go out again. I followed up with an email, he replied but no mention of a date, I followed up again saying again "looking forward to going out again soon" but no word. But remember, we're all dating he may have met a better match or after further thought decided I wasn't for him. But the moral is w/out going for it you'll never know. That 'he's just not that into you' is fine but about two months ago I did a follow up and the guy was happy I did otherwise he thought I wasn't interested.
I'm of the mind that if the guy is interested, he'll be glad to get the email, and if he's not, it won't hurt because he's already not interested ;-). BUT, I much prefer that the guy contact me first, because where it gets tricky is if I send a follow up email and he responds but he's ambiguous in his interest, so you don't know if he's just responding and even asking you out again ONLY because you prodded him into doing so--I hate being in that limbo so I prefer to wait for the guy to contact me...that way I *know* he's at least interested enough to take the initiative and follow up.
Sheri
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