Did I miss something? Didn't you just meet this guy a couple nights ago? As a guy, I can tell you that you're giving up hope WAY too soon. Unfortunately, us men are bombarded by constant dating "advice" from friends, articles, other women, whatever. Equally unfortuantely, one of the most prevelant "rules" we hear time and time again is never to call right away (regardless of whether there was actually a date) and to remain "mysterious" and "challenging." Another rule, and this one is paramount, is NEVER call on a Friday/ Saturday (for fear of looking like you don't have anything to do on a Friday/ Saturday). I didn't make the rules. I'm not saying I agree with them either, but their stuck in our psyches. Most men blindly follow them. This is not to say that the guy isn't a jerk and isn't ultimately going to ghost you, but it's way too soon to make that assumption. I'd give it a week. If he calls you then, you can cvall him out on the dating rules (in a funny, playful way). Trust me, it'll work. But in the meantime, don't try to contact him again. You gots to have faith, Sista!!
Did you hear from him since posting this message? You post in another thread would seem to indicate that you did.
I would urge you to guard against falling into the "he was everything I was looking for" trap though...after just one date, you don't KNOW that by a long stretch. For all you know, he could have major issues.
I know, it's so disappointing when that happens. I've had great first meets, only to have never hear from the guy again (or have him say thanks but no thanks). It is frustrating...I just try to hold on to the idea that a guy who is potentially right for me would want to go out again, so despite the fact that I had a good time with him, he can't be right for me if he's not interested.
I can't believe he actually SAID that though about the baggage!
I don't know that having gone on one date with a guy who is unavailable to you means that you're following a pattern, though. You wouldn't know whether or not he was available to you if you hadn't gone out with him, right?
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Well, I am getting increasingly bummed.
Did you hear from him since posting this message? You post in another thread would seem to indicate that you did.
I would urge you to guard against falling into the "he was everything I was looking for" trap though...after just one date, you don't KNOW that by a long stretch. For all you know, he could have major issues.
Sheri
I know, it's so disappointing when that happens. I've had great first meets, only to have never hear from the guy again (or have him say thanks but no thanks). It is frustrating...I just try to hold on to the idea that a guy who is potentially right for me would want to go out again, so despite the fact that I had a good time with him, he can't be right for me if he's not interested.
I can't believe he actually SAID that though about the baggage!
I don't know that having gone on one date with a guy who is unavailable to you means that you're following a pattern, though. You wouldn't know whether or not he was available to you if you hadn't gone out with him, right?
Sheri
To explain the baggage thing (I think the term itself was a joke) - but he is looking for someone that's been divorced and may have kids.
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