WOW

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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 4:30pm

Hi again. OK. When last we left, online "favorite" who I have been emailing back and forth with (twice in immediate succession)for few weeks, was making me wonder why we hadn't talked. We finally got to the point that he gave me his number and we agreed to talk the next night. He works over 50 hrs/wk. right now. To date everything he has said has checked out. I have been hesitant because I have kids and I didn't think he would want to date someone with kids. We didn't end up talking that night. We talked the next night. We talked for 45 min. and I asked him about the issues of dating someone with kids after a while. His response was plausible (usually they don't want kids again, etc) and led me to think there was something in his past.

Anyway we emailed again today. I responded to his last one from last night and was surprised that he immediately responded (he's at work after all). I asked about the fact that we were getting snow and we got playful. VERY innocent. Snowmen etc. He made a "naked" comment that I retorted was quite...... considering we haven't met but went back and forth a few more times still innocently, intelligently playful. He got the message. I think we are both taking it slow....maybe that was a guy test of some sort. Do I wait now for just phone interaction and meeting now? I'm being myself and I think he is too but you don't know....until you know. I am also scared because I haven't felt a genuine connection to anyone like this. Any thoughts? Experiences?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: eliza2006
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 5:54pm

No, no, no, I'm saying it sounds like sexual incompatability has been an issue for you so you're afraid of it happening again. I have rarely encountered it, so it's not really a concern of mine.

Sheri

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In reply to: eliza2006
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 6:20pm
Well, yes, there are some folks who would next someone regardless of the context.

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In reply to: eliza2006
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 6:31pm
Of course two adults can discuss sex without jumping into bed immediately - but to discuss is with someone you don't know implies a certain lack of class, IMHO.







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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: eliza2006
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 7:37pm

I don't think I'm not "open"...in the context of a relationship, I'm *very* sexually open (and it's not just me thinking that, I've been told that by men I've been involved with). But I do draw the line at discussing sex with someone I've never met...to me, that's just not appropriate. I know that line is not for everyone, but I don't like having people assume I must not be open or that I'm uptight about sex because I draw that line. I'm not...but I do think there's a time and place for that, ya know ;-)?

Sheri

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In reply to: eliza2006
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 1:57pm
Exactly - once it's appropriate timing, I'm VERY open.

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In reply to: eliza2006
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 9:10pm
Yeah, I am kind of with you. (Im late here, lol). I am a pretty open sexual person. That doesnt mean i will haev sex on teh 1st date (i dont THINK! lol), but i have been E'ing & talking on the phone with this one "C", for more than a month (we live 1 + hr apart & our date was cx 2 weeks ago b/c he was sick, & we are both single parents so its hard to reschedule, but i will meet him this Friday finally) & i dont mind the flirtation or the slightly sexual commetns. They are more like innuendos, which are fine with me - since i tend to be like that anyway. I almost am happy we are at that stage b/c it wont be so stressful when we DO meet as we have that banter back & forth already.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: eliza2006
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 10:02pm

"Man Boobs?!" Yikes!


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In reply to: eliza2006
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 10:05pm
Yep - close to a B cup, I would guess. Eeeck!

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