WOW II

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Registered: 02-25-2006
WOW II
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Sun, 03-05-2006 - 9:19pm

36 posts. Who knew? Ok here's the deal the context of his comment was flirtation. He actually started out by talking about going outside to make snowangels. I said I'd meet him out in the snow. Now I talked to several friends male and female. Here is what they said:

Friend #1 (highly independent not afraid to say sex gal): "He's seeing if you can play. He likes independent assertive women, feels comfortable with you and wanted to play. You kept him in check and he probably liked that."

Friend #2 (very appropriate but underneath band loving gal who is with the guy she met online): "Hell we used to say a lot more...."

Friend #3 (very shy male who was on match and is currently dating a girl from there): "I've never been ballsy enough to say anything like that. No wait I did once but it wasn't meant to be sexual. She had a fun personality and I made a comment that wasn't meant to be rude but she took it that way. She YELLED at me after. Probably why I never did."

Friend #4 (male half of band girl): "He was flirting. See guys don't think like that. They just go with the flow. Girls read into every little thing. Either way you checked him in a way that didn't tell him he was a loser."

All agreed to one thing that I have now decided for myself: I need to trust my judgement. I'm a great gal looking for someone who "fits" with me. I am still talking to two other gentlemen so whatever. He was my favorite and only time and I can tell. Thanks for all your input, though. It helps too.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: eliza2006
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 10:02pm
Exactly - it's all about your comfort level, if you are able to stand up for yourself and call the guy to the carpet when he says something YOU are not comfortable with and then whether he respects your request and stops. If you like him and he's been good since, good for you and good luck! But just be careful and keep an eye open for any other comments. Hopefully he'll keep them to flirting only.

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