Write or Talk

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Registered: 04-11-2003
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Sat, 12-24-2005 - 3:32pm
When a guy asks what the girl is more comfortable with - emails or phone, what should be the norm? If emails, then should the gal give away her email address in the message on OLD site or wait for the guy to give his email address and proceed from there?
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In reply to: sk3035
Sat, 12-24-2005 - 4:57pm

If the guy wants to message, I think it's o.k. to give out an anonymous email address first. If you ever call a guy on the phone, I think it's best to block your number. It doesn't hurt to be careful and good guys have more respect for a woman who's self-protective.

Personally, I like to swap a few emails, three to four. After that, talk on the phone. I used to think once was enough but now I'm thinking that talking on the phone three or four times before meeting isn't a bad idea. People relax after the first few contacts generally and you get to see the real them more. I don't think people should substitute phone calls or messaging for meeting face-to-face but it's a good screening process. I don't find it helpful for getting to know the person; it's mainly helpful for eliminating some.

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Sat, 12-24-2005 - 5:50pm

Thank you.

I sent him a message on the OLD website giving out my email address, throwing the ball in his court. If he emails me, that's fine and if not, then that's fine too.

I will talk to him on emails for a little time and then proceed to phone, taking things slowly.

SK