Went on another first meet tonight.
Yet another good reason to meet sooner rather than later. Isn't it a shame, though...you seemed to have things in common and then no physical attraction. But I don't think it's shallow at all.
And there's just no excuse for having yellow teeth and dandruff these days.
I'm going on a first date with a guy tonight. He didn't have a full-body photo posted (just a head shot) and when I met him, he has quite a girth around the middle. I saw him from a distance walking into the wine bar, but then didn't really get a good look after that--he was sitting down the whole time. Anyway, I liked him well enough and decided to give it another go. But I have to be honest: I will probably not be able to get past it. But like you, I really want to give someone the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes I feel like I'm too picky with the physical stuff but yet...if you're not attracted you just aren't.
Well, my hunch was correct:
Double-eeewww about the jacuzzi!
See, this is what is to me, the hardest thing about OLD, which isn't true about meeting someone IRL: you go through this rigamarole and set up a meeting and then, it's usually all decided within 3 minutes. There's just no way to gauge chemistry until you meet. And I just absolutely HATE having to tell someone "thanks but no thanks." I would almost rather be the one "rejected." Obviously, if you meet IRL, you can size them up "chemistry-wise" and then get to know them.
However, I just don't meet enough men in my real life (whatever that is) so I'll keep plugging away at OLD.
That's also why I like to meet sooner than later.
I wouldn't care that the pictures are old, though. I think I've said here before that my boyfriend didn't have a picture posted, so it's not really a big deal to me. But I don't let myself get attached to guys I haven't met.
Maybe the question is why are they posting photos that old, even if they are date stamped? Are they saying, "well this is basically what I look like, but not exactly"? Are they too lazy to take even a single current photo?
Playing devil's advocate here -
I have very few current pictures of me - make that very few pictures at all - because I'm always the one with the camera.
And frankly, I'd rather have no picture up of a potential boyfriend than a current one of him in his bathroom mirror, or in his car with a cell phone.