Yep there are weirdos online

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Yep there are weirdos online
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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 11:08pm

ok so over the weekend i got an email from a guy who seemed nice, i liked his pic and profile, but did not respond right away. Next day i saw he had written to me again and it just said, LOL too funny. I wrote back asking what was so funny and then said, hi how are you? He wrote oh i was looking back at what i had written to you. So i think we emailed a few times, he is 37 and i noticed his profile said he'd prefer a woman in her late 20's. I asked him why, he went on say that he had always dated women his own age or older and wanted to try younger. At this point i was thinking...erm ok. So i read his profile again and he had UPDATED it so it said all this stuff about how he had made some women angry by stating he wants younger women, unless you're older and in good shape, yada yada. I am 28, he also talked quite a bit about wanting to settle down and have a family. I didnt write back that day, next day i see that he has written me again saying, i must be busy or has he said something to offend or bother me? Aside from the wanting younger women thing, he still seemed ok...he asked for my #...stupidly i gave it to him. His profile says he lives in cambridge...then i get this other email saying, oh i actually live in Maine, but my office is in cambridge...he calls me last nigth. I didnt call back...he called THREE times tonight and then sent a text saying, are you really this shy, i dont bite, call me back. One of his messages said he would be in town tomorrow and would i like to meet for a drink

what is wrong with people> Yeah I shouldnt have given him my number i guess...but he seemed ok at first...good grief...i just hope he doesnt call back again...i'm not sure what to say...i usually just ignore in these situations.

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 7:26am
What the heck? I don't see anything wrong with what he's done or said. Put on your big girl panties and call him back. If you're not interested anymore (and I don't know why) then TELL HIM! Geesh. This is why no one tries that hard online anymore. You are sending so many mixed messages.
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 9:01am
I must be missing it....
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 9:16am

What makes him weird?

The fact that he wants a younger woman or that he believed you wanted him to call when you gave him your number?


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Registered: 02-02-2005
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 9:28am

did you guys read my post?? He called me three times in one evening (after i didnt call him back sunday) left two voicemails AND sent a text message.

You think that's normal? Sorry, but in my book it's normal to call ONCE and then if you dont get a call back...move on.

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 9:38am
So is that what you do? Just give him your phone number to test him? See how many times he calls before he gets your secret message? Which seems to be call me and if I don't answer or return the call then I'm not interested even if I gave you my phone number. WHICH makes no sense. I really don't think he's the weirdo here.



Edited 11/28/2006 9:41 am ET by dancingeel
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Tue, 11-28-2006 - 9:45am
lol, for whatever reason you always like to be nasty to me...this is not the first time i've seen rude emails from you. I realize i gave him my number, but that was BEFORE he basically lied about where he lived and he updated his profile basically putting down women who are 30-35 and that they shouldnt be offended that he doesnt want to date them. If you think its normal to call someone FOUR times and send a text over the course of two evenings...when you have never spoken to them...then ok (:
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Registered: 11-06-2006
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 9:50am
What's rude is someone giving someone their phone number and then not returning or answering the call like a grown up. I'm not sure why that's so hard to understand. Sure - you'll brush this off because you think I'm just someone picking on you but this is blatant ghosting that we women complain about ALL the time. And yet you find fault with the guy as an excuse to do it. This is exactly what's wrong with online dating.
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Registered: 02-02-2005
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 9:57am
It's not really ghosting if you've never spoken to the person and have been corresponding with them for a day. Big deal. Maybe he shouldnt have lied about where he lived and tried to make it seem like he lived in boston when he really lives in MAINE. Then i get crap because i didnt answer his call right away? Maybe i would have called back but got a little freaked out when i saw he called three times in 3 hours one night and sent a text. you know very well that if any woman came on here saying, oh um i called this guy who gave me his # 3 times tonight and sent a text, why didnt he call back? she'd pretty much be laughed off the board and told to get some self respect.
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Registered: 11-06-2006
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 10:06am
And you will continue to get "crap" as you call it until you behave as an adult. I see nothing wrong with what he did at all. I don't necessarily believe that he lied either. You tend to make the situation worse than what it really is (there are plenty of previous posts to back this statement up) and then come here for validation. You're not getting validation from me. I think you're wrong and I'm just letting you know why.
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Registered: 02-02-2005
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 10:10am
Thank you (: I appreciate your feedback!

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