Yep there are weirdos online
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| Mon, 11-27-2006 - 11:08pm |
ok so over the weekend i got an email from a guy who seemed nice, i liked his pic and profile, but did not respond right away. Next day i saw he had written to me again and it just said, LOL too funny. I wrote back asking what was so funny and then said, hi how are you? He wrote oh i was looking back at what i had written to you. So i think we emailed a few times, he is 37 and i noticed his profile said he'd prefer a woman in her late 20's. I asked him why, he went on say that he had always dated women his own age or older and wanted to try younger. At this point i was thinking...erm ok. So i read his profile again and he had UPDATED it so it said all this stuff about how he had made some women angry by stating he wants younger women, unless you're older and in good shape, yada yada. I am 28, he also talked quite a bit about wanting to settle down and have a family. I didnt write back that day, next day i see that he has written me again saying, i must be busy or has he said something to offend or bother me? Aside from the wanting younger women thing, he still seemed ok...he asked for my #...stupidly i gave it to him. His profile says he lives in cambridge...then i get this other email saying, oh i actually live in Maine, but my office is in cambridge...he calls me last nigth. I didnt call back...he called THREE times tonight and then sent a text saying, are you really this shy, i dont bite, call me back. One of his messages said he would be in town tomorrow and would i like to meet for a drink
what is wrong with people> Yeah I shouldnt have given him my number i guess...but he seemed ok at first...good grief...i just hope he doesnt call back again...i'm not sure what to say...i usually just ignore in these situations.

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I can't stand it when people call more than once without giving you a chance to return their calls, so I'm with you on that. And I would agree with feeling misled by him putting his location as Cambridge when he lives in Maine.
But I also think you should at least send him an email saying that you changed your mind about talking to him, that you've decided you're not a match after all, something like that, so he's not left hanging. Then block him if you don't want to deal with further emails from him.
Sheri
I just want to point something out...yes, some of us complain about people who "ghost" on us...but a lot of the time it's not the behavior of ghosting we're upset about; we're upset that the person we thought there was promise with is a person who ended up ghosting.
I honestly didnt think I was going to be accused of being this big beotch for 'ghosting' in this thread lol. I really hadnt spoken to this guy very much at all. I was more suprised at the number of times he called...he is 37 years old...why? I just dont get why he thought calling me all those times in one would have gotten him a response. If someone wants to think i'm weird because i gave him my # and then didnt answer...well go ahead. I have explained my reasons for doing it. I just find it odd that i was basically attacked by davinieel or whoever because i didnt call someoen back and YES it's weird that they called all those times. I think she must have a personal issue with me.
Ghosting might be sucky for whoever it happens to...i've had it happen to me, I guess that's just part of life. I have never even met this guy, never even spoken to him...I dont feel that I owe an explanation. If we had dated a few weeks...then yeah i'd owe him an explanation.
I am SO with you! Safety is important in this day and age and people sometimes forget that we have an inner voice that says "this isn't right"--- I have heard again and again on Oprah or other shows with women who said "this doesn't seem right but I don't want to be rude"--- the last time I heard about this was with Gabrielle Union on Oprah--- turns out that guy robbed the store she was working at and raped her.
I am dealing with something similiar- some guy that we talked ONCE--- but no pictures were exchanged--- has now called me 20 times (no exaggeration!!!) since that time even though I do not call him back--- I got the "weird" vibe at about the 5th phone call.
If you don't feel comfortable and this guy's boundaries are OFF, I think you are right on the money!
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