your opinion?

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Registered: 01-31-2004
your opinion?
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 9:45pm
Please.. I need your input.
Last night I had a second meet with this guy. We had a good time and he followed me home to "see where I live". I suspect that he kinda was hoping for something more.. Well he didn't get it. We parted nicely, he drove off into the night. The question is..
I have not heard from him today to make plans for the weekend, he has not been on line since he viewed my profile 2 weeks ago. I am tempted to contact him but really would like for him to make this move. Would it be safe to assume that even the shiest guy ever will find a way to contact a girl if he does like her?
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 10:10pm

So lemme get this straight... you had a second meet LAST NIGHT and are concerned that he hasn't been in touch TODAY to make plans for this weekend.. which is like, tomorrow?

Perspective, girlfriend. It's great that you had a good time, but don't get ahead of yourself! Sure, maybe he's JNTIY but it's too soon to jump to ANY conclusions. Let him call when he's ready but try not to stress over it. Easier said than done I KNOW!! I am trying so hard not to email this guy again but to just wait it out, the ball is totally in his court at this point. Hang in there hon!

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Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 10:16pm
thanks for the words of wisdom. I need for someone to set me straight!
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Registered: 04-21-2003
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 10:17pm
Yep, agree with Phoenix. It's too early to worry whether or not he's intending to call you again. I sometimes do send an email following a date, just to be clear I had a good time and am interested. But then the ball is totally in their court. The waiting sucks, but you just have to tough it out!
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Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: ivos2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 11:11pm

Hi Ivos,

If you can, try to learn to live by the Japanese proverb: "Do nothing, and have Nothing to regret"--this So applies to actions you are Not sure you should take; in this case, contacting him.

As the others said, let it roll, and he will call. He likes you, he might have something else he already had planned, and, right now, he does not have to inform you of any of that. That is why I try to keep two or three men to date at one time. One will fall off the roll for one reason or another, but that way, I am not waiting for calls, one will come from Someone almost every day! If I find someone I like a lot, I will stop dating the others. Don't stop going online, just because he has, if you are not yet in a more serious mode with him, and after 2 dates, it is too Soon to be there.

Go. Do. Have Fun. Karma says the moment you forget about something, is when it returns!

Good luck and Roll on, Little Rock!

truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ivos2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 10:40am
I love those words of wisdom. I'm also sitting on my hands (well, not really) trying not to email this guy about plans this weekend. He mentioned in his email Wed about getting together Sunday night but I haven't heard from him since. It is the hardest thing to wait.