In your opinion

white_satin wrote:

<p>I'm with the others that EH is a big waste of money. OLD is about having access to a lot of people since it's so hard to find mutual attraction. The gimmicky pre-matching has no scientific merits.  It's based on superficial personal preferences that make for intersting conversation starters but there are lots of people that you can have a conversation with that don't have other important core values you want. In addition, like any OLD, given the fleeting moment during which you decide whether you want to go out with  someone, people still rely on physical attributes: race, age, looks, wt, ht to feel an initial attraction so it's not different from the other OLD but now they limit your access a significant way.</p><p>POF have lots of low-quality men or maybe it's because of the area I'm in now. Don't know. Their search engine is very poor so even when you want to choose the men yourself, you can't design a search to fit what you're looking for.</p><p>I've heard sporatic good comments about OKCupid including from a gf of mine. Havn'et tried it.</p><p>I was on Match for the longest time, including a year or so on Match while living in Los Angeles. This was 8 years ago. YOu'd think I'd find someone given my younger age (38 at the time), and location but I found most men were just way to snobbish. I didn't have the stomach for it so haven't been back.</p><p>I'm not on any site now. I'm in  a R/S now. Long story how it evolved...Another subject :)</p><p>BUT, if I was to test the OLD again, I would probably use more than one sites just to increase my exposure. I would use Match again given the large user base. Maybe a free one like OK Cupid. And a niche one. The key is to just put yourself out there and take some knock-em-dead photos.</p><p> </p>

I'm thinking about doing just that. I've re-upped my Match for about 3 months and was thinking that I might go try OKC again--I was on there about 2 years ago, right after my break up, but I think it was too soon for me. I did meet a man and met him for one date--and I really liked him. We had a great first meeting, or so I thought. We met for dinner and laughed and talked til the place closed. He emailed me afterwards saying what a good time he had and was looking forward to our next date. He called me once during the week (we'd gone out on a Friday evening) to reiterate that he was looking forward to seeing me.

On the following Sunday morning, I got an email from him saying that someone had come back into his life and he wanted to give that another shot, so I got dropped off at the mall.  I was really saddened by that because I really liked him.  We'd spent about 2 months doing site emails, then personal emails then phone calls before we met in person.  So after that, I took down all of my info on that site and just tended to my healing over my last relationship.