your thoughts?

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Registered: 04-22-2003
your thoughts?
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Sat, 11-05-2005 - 11:23pm

I just received this email from a guy that I met online in June. We hung out for like 3 month (casually) and then we just stopped speaking. I wasn't sure what to think when I got this email but I want to hear your thoughts. I never responded and i'm not sure if I will.

Not even sure how to begin and I have never been
the most articulate person or very good at expressing
myself in general but here goes. I just wanted to get
a couple of things off my chest and please understand
that I am writing to you with the best intentions.
First, I think the world of you and feel that
you are one of the most generous, funny, genuine,
beautiful, smart and caring people I have ever spent
time with. I apologize for not calling you back but I
felt that in doing so it would probably be the easiest
way to end things for you. I felt that sometimes
things are best left unsaid. Unfortunately, sometimes
you just cant choose who you feel you are meant to be
with even though all the pieces might seem to fit. I
guess while writing this I realized that I did this
because I didn't want to feel disrespected at all and
I truly did enjoy hanging out with you. I know this
email is probably a little retarded and out of left
field but in any event it is one I wanted to send.
Whether this email is one you don't give much thought
and quickly delete or the start of a friendship
between us, a chance for the latter would make it well
worth it. I hope you are doing well and maybe we can
talk soon.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 11:33pm

Ok, that's odd.....can we say a case of the guilts???

I would have no clue how to answer it either....I think I wouldn't respond at all.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-05-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 11:47pm

Hi,

He is way to vague in his discours ..... Was he like that before ?
I would not reply either because I would not know that is trying to tell me But maybe you do... in that case, I would communcate with him again to try and understand why he did things that way

good luck

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2001
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 11:47pm

It sounds sort of like a "break-up" letter but is strange in that he says he wants to get a couple things off his chest but never really proceeds to tell what those things might be. Then he says some things should be left unsaid? He's right, he doesn't articulate very well.

He just wants to be "friends"? Yeah, and like I'm sure you still want to be his friend after an e-mail like that one. Knowing how I am, if I got an e-mail like this one, I would probably respond and most likely let him know that "friendship" isn't likely an option. But, I guess you'd have to decide how much you liked the guy and if it was worth your time to compose something worth firing back at him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 1:04am
I would let this one go too. However, I'd be tempted to make a parting shot and let him know that it was this last message that broke the deal for you. It's vague, passive-aggressive, and wishy-washy. It almost reads like a preemptive break-up--he cut off the communication in anticipation of being dumped by you? Either that or he's terrible with words. In any case, sounds like bad news.
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Registered: 04-22-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 5:21am
Thanks for your thoughts. I wasn't really sure what he was triying to tell me but I figured after he didn't call me after a 2-3 days that, that was it. I didn't need to wait a month to hear it.