Yup, I'm shallow

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Yup, I'm shallow
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:29am

Got a wink from a guy with a decent profile, but hidden pictures.

Yes, I should have known better.

But I took the bait.

Asked to see the pics.

He's a little troll man.

Sigh. Now I either ghost, tell him I'm not interested, or do a coffee meet.


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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:01am
You're not shallow!
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:05am

Thanks!

Things have been really slow lately. I can't even remember the last date I was on.

Guess I was hoping in vain.

I'm trying to graciously accept the fact that I'm not dating right now because it's God's way of telling me I don't have the time or energy to invest in it.

But seriously - I should have known better about the hidden pictures. There's always a reason they're hidden, and it's never good.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2006
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:20pm
Sigh. I've been there too and I know how shallow you feel right now. But, nonetheless if you have no interest in him at all I vote ghost. Don't meet him out of guilt. Waste of his time and yours.
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:22pm

Ghosting is not always bad.

I disagree though, that hiding pics is always bad. I don't want people I know seeing me online, so I choose to share them once I know I don't know them IRL. I'm no troll, either.







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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 8:27am

This man might have a heart of gold, be the kindest gentlest sweetest man on the planet and you won't give him a chance to prove his worth. We need to be more kinder, more considerate, pictures may not show the true inner-soul of a decent man...

....I'm just kidding. A picture is worth 1000 words. Ghost, ghost, ghost. Don't waste your precious time.

(How many people did I suck in with that?)

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 8:30am

ROFLOL

Yup, my eyes were rolling at that one.

We aren't quite yet to April Fool's Day!


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 9:30am
We know you too well chamey!
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 05-19-2005
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 12:39pm

Oh, I'm sure that sort of thing happens a lot in OLD. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

He chose to not post his photos. He knows he will be asked for them. I'd actually question why he didn't post a photo with his profile, but that's something else again...

There's an easy and hard way to online rejection.

Easy way: Post a profile with photos and not know.
Hard way: Post a profile with photos on request- Risk the chance of not hearing back.

I had a guy write me once assuring me that he was very attractive, but couldn't post a photo because of his "prominent" law enforcement position. So I invited him to send a pic, he did, and I wasn't interested. I didn't write him back, but he did...to state that I "must not have found him attractive". He was right, but I still didn't respond.

In cases like this, I don't think you owe an explanation. Ignore, ghost, block...whatever. It's okay.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 2:00pm

There was a guy from CL that was like that with me.

heather 5-18-10