110% COUPLED OUT!!!
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| Thu, 12-28-2006 - 12:02pm |
Happy Holidays!
I hope this posting finds you well! Usually I'm disgustingly optimistic but today I'm in one of those moods where I'm highly annoyed and just need to feel understood by the right kind of people.
I'm home on Christmas break right now, but normally live with my best friend and her now fiance. They just got engaged. I'm happy for them as they're great; however, I'm not looking forward to the nonstop talk of their upcoming wedding. My friend's family has a lot of money and I've heard 1,000+ times of how they're "going all out" and all that. I know it's normal to be excited about getting married, but she tends to be super showy and I've heard it all a million times and now it'll be upped to the nth power.
My friends back where I'm from are all in relationships, too. So when we all hang out, it's an overload for me. I smile and am excited, but feel out of the loop and am starting to get annoyed. Right or wrong, I mentioned this to my best friend and I think it's tamed down a little. Anyways. I'm tired of smiling and sitting there. I don't fit in with typical "single crowd" and I'm definately not in the "couple crowd". I'm all coupled out and I feel like I'm going crazy!!!
I was single for 2.5 years by choice and am ready to date someone decent now. Why can't someone decent come along? I feel so stuck and am tired of the nonstop couple madness. I hate to say it but I'm dreading going back home because now I'm going to be hearing about it even more. It's not a jealousy issue, it just gets old in general. I'm not bitter about being single, I just feel so alone lately. Ugh!
Welp, my family and I are off to go shopping. Hopefully that'll appease me some. Shopping solves any problem! (Or at least we can pretend! :OP)
Thanks for hearing me vent. I hate sounding so negative but I've just had it it seems.
Any input is appreciated! :S
Pink

Pink,
I hear ya. Yet another coworker got engaged this weekend. I am genuinely happy for her, but it does get old to hear about all the couple stuff when you are the single one.
My best advice is to avoid the wedding and couple conversations when you need to. You don't have to listen to every detail of what color the invitations will be or which combination of flowers she absolutely must have. You have the right to leave the room and focus on your own life. Sometimes people don't realize that you may not be as excited about all these things as they are, so you have to give yourself permission to bow out when you need a break from it.
TG
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Hey, pink!
Thanks for your kind responses.
Turns out my best friend isn't engaged yet. She just changed her webpage picture to her ideal ring AGAIN and left "unclear" messages on her page leading people to believe she is now engaged. Later on she posted a note saying she isn't, but she and he looked at rings today. She's done this more than once. I think it's kind of showy and lame but maybe I'm being evil saying that. Who knows. *rolls eyes*
I always go a couple years of loving being single. During the last stretch I even debated if I ever wanted to date again because I've seen so many relationships go bad.
But now here I am annoyed by couples and wanting to date again.
Why won't God give me a break in this department?!
Pink
Pinkdaisy,
I've got a friend who is constantly talking about getting married pretty much from the day she met her boyfriend. It's so irritating. She did it with her last boyfriend as well and it turned out that he was a serial cheater and their romance was far from perfect. I think it's so sad that there are women out there who try and force their boyfriends to propose. From personal experience, if a man wants to commit, he doesn't need any prodding. All the guys I have been with have always talked about marriage with me within two months of meeting me. If I felt that I had to hint at marriage with someone, I'd leave them. I think your girlfriend sounds a bit pathetic. Seriously, I'd rather be single and happy than act like that. I'm embarrassed for her.
Feisty
"I think it's so sad that there are women out there who try and force their boyfriends to propose. "
That is something that annoys me, too.
My friend put the ring style number, the location of the jewelry store and the cost on an index card and gave it to her boyfriend.
Talk about romantic.
Smile,
Deirdre
I can totally relate to everything in this thread! I'm surrounded by friends planning their weddings and I come from a small town where getting married and having babies is a lot of girls' major goal in life. I on the other hand am content taking my time, being able to spend money to go out because I'm not planning some elaborate wedding or paying for things for a boyfriend/fiance. My friend pays for everything for her fiance and it sickens me.
I'm trying to hang out with other singles but the couples outnumber them immensely... well good luck, it will get better :)
Aside from Christmas and seeing family, I honestly think the responses to this posting are one of the bests things that's happened to me the past week! Thank God for you all!
Yeah, I really don't understand why she has to have that ring as her profile pic all the time. Each time she changes it, people IM her asking if she's engaged. I think that's being a little "attention thirsty", personally. She also made a slideshow of the rings she and her bf looked at. I'm sorry, but does anyone besides her and him really care THAT much?!?
I think part of it is all the couples I'm around back home and part of it is in retrospect I'm realizing that my best friend can be annoying. She seems to pride herself on being more social and goofy than I am; however, I'm now seeing that really she just talks about herself and makes it known that her family has a lot of money. I probably sound like a horrible person by saying that, but being away from her this week seems to be making things clear. I love her dearly, but geez!
You all have made me feel better. It's nice and also sad to know that others feel the same way! I need to think of what I can do when I go back to my "other state" so that I'm not around couples as much. I live about 40 minutes from where there are things to do. Let's brainstorm some ideas that might help all of us out a little!
I'm thinking of joining a fitness club. :)
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