2 different nights out

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Registered: 11-28-1999
2 different nights out
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Sun, 06-30-2013 - 6:39pm

After being totally bored last weekend & staying home w/ my teenage son, who was also bored (the only thing we could think of to do was go out to dinner cause it was very hot too), this weekend I went out both nights.

Friday night was a bust.  I had made plans to go with one friend to a ballroom dancing place that I had been to before that is very nice, then she got sick.  So some other friends were going to a singles dance--I really hate them (the dances, not the friends) but the alternative was staying home cause it was last minute.  There were 6 of us who met up there.  I was dressed up nicely--not one man asked me to dance, can you believe it?  There were a couple of men there that my friends knew and not even those guys asked me (although I didn't care for either one of them, but I like dancing).  A couple of my friends were getting asked to dance a lot.  The only good thing was that our group ended up with 3 free bottles of wine.  I won a drawing and then they do this kind of match game where they give out cards & you are supposed to find the man with the matching card--well my girl friend ended up with the same card as me, so one of the guys took that card and said "look, we will go out & say that we matched up."  The man at the desk said "this can't be--both of you have the cards marked women" but the friend said "I can't help it if you gave me a woman's card by mistake" so they believed him & gave up 2 bottles of wine and then he said he had plenty of wine at home so he let us keep it.  So for the price of $15, I got wine and a piece of cake--wow!  After that, my most wild & crazy friend wanted to go to this nightclub that was next door for Latin music night--I like that music and it's very frustrating because I know how to dance it very well, but again, no dancing.  Oh yes, one guy asked me to dance and then he turned out to be creepy--he was trying to grab my rear and he was saying about how he liked curvy women and then he asked if I wanted to go out with him--when I said no, he stopped dancing with me.  lol  And to top off the night, I met one of my dance teachers there & he said he had been to the ballroom place that I was originally going to & some other people I knew were there, so that probably would have been a good night.  It's a dilemma because a couple of my friends really like going to this place, but I always hate it--but I liked the woman and hate always saying no.  But it's just not enjoyable to me, so I think I'll just say that I like doing things with them, but just call me when they are going somewhere else.

Then last night a different friend & I went to a swing dance--it was a totally different atmosphere.  If you keep going to these dances, you keep seeing the same people, so by now there are always a few people I recognize.  It's not about being picked up for a date--it's more about the dancing, so when the guys find out you can dance, then they ask you.  I danced with at least 7 different men, so it was not boring in the least, plus it was live music w/ a really good band, so at least if you're not dancing, you can enjoy the music.  There were also people there from a meetup group that I belong to and the one guy who is the organizer of the group I met once before.  He was very friendly and I don't know if he's interested but at least he seems like someone I could get to know better & be friends with.  I signed up for a meetup in a couple of weeks that's at a bar with a band & he will be there.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 07-04-2013 - 11:45pm

  Lucky you!  Doing better than me! 

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 07-01-2013 - 8:56pm

ha ha.. I know what you mean Music.... I keep thinking the stuff is also flying by me but I have a friend who is into this stuff and she told me that  my whole life is shifting whatever that means.. It might mean a host of things like moving and finding new friends or whatever.. .. she also said things are going to get better..

dont know but its fun...LOL

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-01-2013 - 8:38pm

Yes I do hope the energy is shifting somewhere good.  I keep getting these horoscopes that "love is in the air."  It must be flying right by then.

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Mon, 07-01-2013 - 7:36pm

Well - my weekend didn't go quite as planned, but was still good.  Saturday was a very quiet day.  I was worn out from an extremely busy week, and spent Saturday doing very little - except getting my hair done.  I didn't get to see the Tall Ships, but Ribfest on Sunday was a sucess - good food, friends and music.

Today, I was hoping to see the B17 Flying Fortress arrive but wasn't able to fit that into my day.  Had to take my daughter home, so decided to continue to Niagara Falls and visit the Rose Garden.  The roses have been so gorgeous this spring that I thought the garden would be fabulous.  It was lovely, but a lot of the roses were past their best,  Even still, I took over 100 photos!

Tonight, being Canada Day, there will be fireworks.  Last year there was a fantastic display at the Ribfest site, so I am hoping to get there for that.  If I miss tonight's display, I will be able to see a good display on the 4th at Niagara Falls, as we help our American friends celebrate their day. 

Have a good week, everyone.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 07-01-2013 - 6:16pm

Ha, Music, your weekend evenings are always WAY better and more interesting than mine, even if you consider them a flop ;)

I shopped, did laundry, had my hair cut & colored and watched the season finale of Mad Men on On-Demand.  Woo ~ hoo!

'Hope everyone has a fabulous holiday weekend.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 07-01-2013 - 5:39pm

Hello;

Well doing something is probably better than doing nothing.. this weekend I thought I would just chill out because my sis wasnt home for the weekend and I love having the house to myself.. but I had to something on Sat. so I figured I would make a day out of it alone so I just did some driving and sightseeing. I stopped in at my son and his gfriend because I had to drop something off at her house.. I talked awhile and then they were going out so I left. I was still in a pretty good mood so I drive home and bought a coconut ice cream sundae and went home and watched a new lifetime movie but I was pretty happy with that....

Sunday I had signed up for a mini golf meet up but when I looked at the pics online everyone looked so young so I cancelled . Next time i have to look closer at the pics..

Its just that I love spending more time outdoors and looking for outside stuff with peeps around my age group . Last weekend I went to an outdoor party and mostly everyone was around my age. We had fun singing karoke and a bunch of games and things. Those things I like and maybe I will check out game night somewhere..

I find I kind of like doing a variety of things but my motivation wanes but I am trying to stay in the moment and staying positive which is pretty challenging..

Music. Its nice to win things and all and maybe your luck is changing.. someone told m e that there is a huge energy shift coming for some people and our luck is going to get better. Who knows but its fun and worth thinking about... hee hee

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 07-01-2013 - 12:57pm

Free stuff is always good!  

I stayed home Friday night. I could have had plans, but I was in a super cranky mood and didn't think I should spread it around.  

I went out Saturday and was feeling better. There was a guy sitting at the bar that I really wanted to talk to- a sort of Brad Paisley look alike. Once I got over my internal battle (still hadn't heard from the latest guy at that point so I wasn't sure if I was still seeing him or not- and I'm still not sure even though I did hear from him) and decided to go over, he was gone. He'd been making eye contact all night too, dang it!  There's another guy I thought was cute, but he was surrounded by his friends. I'm not that brave. The friend I was with ended up with two guys (friends, even) arguing over her. In the end, I decided it was best that I didn't talk to anyone. Going through two guys in three months and having them both lose interest has taken its toll on my self-esteem.

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Mon, 07-01-2013 - 10:58am

Sorry to hear that Friday night wasn't very good.  It does sound like Saturday was much better, though.  I am glad you managed one good night this weekend.Smile