30 and still single

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Registered: 04-13-2004
30 and still single
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 9:29pm
I am a newly turned 30 y/o in chicago. Are there any 30 somethings out there that ever wondered if you'd ever meet the right guy and then found him? I need some words of encouragement. I am a very cute and confident women who does not want to settle, but I never thought it would have taken me this long to find him. When does fate vs. free will kick in? I have never minded being alone rather than being in a so-so relationship. Actually, I have always preferred it this way. But now, I am getting a little nervous that it won't happen for me....
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Registered: 01-02-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 9:41pm

Welcome to this board. You may also want to check ou the 30-something board.

I don't know what the answer is....I will be 40 this week & still single.

Look at your relationship patterns, talk to your friends, a therapist.

Good luck.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 8:55am

I am 32 years old and live in Chicago and take my word for it - the 30s are SO MUCH better than your 20s. The men here tend to be more mature and settled and together. Dating here is much more fun for me now than it ever was.

Of course I still have moments where I am down and worry that I might not meet the right man, but I try to live in the moment with an eye on the future instead of worrying about the negatives. Easier said than done sometimes.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 12:35pm

Thank you!!! Somebody had made the suggestion that I should look at my dating patterns, but honestly, I don't have any. My friends have no idea why I am single, so I don't feel therapy is an issue. Plus I am getting my masters degree in Psychology, so I hope I am not missing a big issue in my own life, otherwise, I might want to change career goals :)

I feel living in Chicago is different than smaller cities. People wait to get married, so being in your early thirties and single is not that unheard of. Any suggestions to where the good and muture men hang out?? It seems the places I have been, have been hoarded with early twenties.....

Thank again,
KCole