Abnormal, demanding or unrealistic?

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Abnormal, demanding or unrealistic?
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Sun, 12-04-2011 - 1:22am

I'm going to lay out my concern objectively and I'd really appreciate your feedback. I could have a huge blind spot here.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 11:54pm

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 1:33am

What I intended to convey is the impression I've formed of her: she's younger than me, she's apparently got great abs (every belly dancer I've seen has great abs) and she's probably got moves I don't even consider and couldn't replicate.

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 5:43am

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 8:47am

Julia: I dont think I have ever heard you share anything about yourself on the boards? forgive me if I am mistaken.

Anyway;; I think as women as I am myself we are so emotional about things and get so caught up in wanting to be loved and get love that all logic goes out the window. I wish I wasnt so emotional because I would have less emotional pain within me .

Its like if a man pays the slightest attention to me I run with it thinking he likes me and we are going to sail off into the sunset together. I know this is not true yet in my heart I so so wish it could be true .. Its like the man looks at it logically but the woman runs with the whole lets love each other, make it work, etc.etc. even though we dont live near each other and a host of other reasons.

Some days I would love to think like a man or even be a man and see what goes on in their heads..

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 10:15am
I don't particularly like talking about myself either onliine or IRL, but here goes: my name's Julia, I'm from London, UK, I'm 41 years old and I've been a member of village since about 2002. I was single then so read this board a lot. Still do, as I fell I've 'known' many on here for years. Met my bf in April 2004 and we've been very happily together ever since. He's now 44, (going on 14!!) 6ft2, slim, gorgeous, and - most importantly! - has fantastic long black wavy hair, which is my major weakness. Not only is he a mere 'employee', he - GASP! - works for a non-profit organisation. And I'm a mere little office manager for a multinational company. We live together in a - GASP!- a mere rented 2 bedroom flat! - and share all costs; we love each other to death and are superbly compatible in every way. Neither of us ever gave a t*** about possessions, ownership, power, cars, houses, yachts, golf courses, jewells etc etc etc. We believe all this is fluff and nonsense and the main things in life are love between yourself and your partner, your health and your close family. We are VERY happy with our lot. We don't have children and don't plan to get married. I hope this suffices...
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 11:02am

Julia, thanks for sharing about yourself a bit. I'm glad you're happy.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 11:12am

Welcome as they say from the other side of the pond .. Thanks for sharing that.. It does help to get some info. about someone because it helps put things in some perspective. I appreciate it very much.. Hey;; How come we dont do that monthly check in thing the other boards have?? shy where you??

I have been to London and loved it.... and you living in a flat is most likely nice.. I know London to be very very expensive so whatever you guys are doing its great...

Over here as you know in the big old USA we think and act differently and that is probably why we agree to disagree. You should visit Texas and see how big they live? I mean if you havent already its just amazing .. The state is the biggest in the USA so they do it up bigger than ever. It is fun to drive around on huge streets and eat huge meals.. (lol)

My sis works for ALS foundation which is not for profit. She has been there many years and she is managing although its in Manhattan and she should be getting more pay.. I guess the saying goes thank God she has a job.

Okay.. take care

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 11:59am

Isn't it funny when we get to an age where meeting the family doesn't mean meeting the parents, it means meeting the children (and GC too--although my oldest is 22 & not married yet, a lot of friends my age have GC).

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 12:21pm

oh; Dear.One of my most scariest things is having a man meet my family .. I try to avoid it like the plaque..

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 1:20pm
No, it's not abnormal and though you didn't ask for Mr. Smith advice, I'd say, life's too short. Find someone who makes you happy.