About connecting and friendships

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About connecting and friendships
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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 6:07pm

This is a post about friendships and relating to others.


As single people we know how important it is to have friends, acquaintances and connections.

Soliel
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 11:09am
>>If their issues are few and far between, it's easier to focus on what they say and not just think to yourself...."oh no, here we go again".<<

I completely agree. I think most of us have known someone who is so negative that they are a drain on our energy. The best friendships I have enjoyed are with people who balance the negative with the positive and have a generally optimistic attitude, and people who are able to give AND take in a conversation.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:14pm

Beautiful ideas!

Soliel
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:19pm

I know, even going to spiritual/religious services costs.


There is a class I go to once in awhile

Soliel
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:45pm
>>I seem to be dealing with a lot of opinionated people these days who express their views but it's one way. I wonder if there is an effective way of dealing with this, without anger or irritation, of course, but with getting the message across.




A very famous radio talk show host once said (actually he says that quite regularly) speaking about 'moderates' .. "moderates are people with no opinion of their own. They wait for a consensus to form and then join the majority." Ditto.



There is nothing wrong with having strong opinions. I consider myself highly opinionated..or rather, having core beliefs. But being opinionated is not the same as being antagonistic or feeling the need to put others down. A lot of people don't have any real opinions but will take the view contrary to the person they are arguing with just for the sake of arguing, so they can "win" the argument and feel good about themselves. They are rear orifices. If you have real well reasoned opinions, by all means defend them but be polite. Political Correctness and the need to 'get along' and 'offend no one' more often than not stifles the truth.

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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:50pm

>> It's kind of sad when it even costs to pray or whatever. <<

It was a mandatory donation? Really? Oh, that makes me sad. I think donations or offerings at religious services should be given voluntarily, according to each person's means. How else would a church/temple/etc. reach out to less fortunate or even homeless people who are seeking a spiritual refuge?

I am looking to cut expsenses myself right now and I am considering leaving my gym because I haven't been going as often. I currently pay $32 per month. I have looked at other gyms - the minimum is $50 per month anywhere else. Yoga classes are a minimum of $15 a session. The rec center used to offer a punch card, but they don't do that anymore -- that would have been ideal for someone who doesn't go often. It is out of control. I'm considering just going back to my workouts at home and walking, but I know I'd be sad to miss out on the social aspect of the gym or workout classes.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:57pm
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 4:38pm

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My argument wasn't political, it was personal.

Soliel
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 4:44pm

I am with you, here.


As singles, often to just get the opportunity to engage in conversation we have to pay, pay, pay.

Soliel
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 8:11pm

What I do is to workout after work, go home, eat, check the computer, walk my dog and go to bed.


Since I work out hard, I get very tired so going to bed early is not a problem for me.


I made a new friend off MySpace and she goes to this ecstatic dance session so I go once or twice a week knowing she'll be there.

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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 8:42pm

I relate to the gathering of energy to be social. I really do enjoy connecting but being introverted myself, I need less and get exhausted sooner with too much noise or socializing.

Soliel