About connecting and friendships

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About connecting and friendships
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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 6:07pm

This is a post about friendships and relating to others.


As single people we know how important it is to have friends, acquaintances and connections.

Soliel

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Registered: 08-13-2007
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 1:54pm

I feel exactly the same except I do not have a SO in my life.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 6:15pm

I was thinking about this thread and about the friends who only want to talk and not listen. I have a friend like that who has had a lot not going well for her lately.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 6:38pm
Good for you for setting a boundary with her. I agree, some friends are prone to dumping on your good news in order to make themselves feel better. If you know she will do that, why bother telling her?

Now I'm curious what you're good news is. :) I won't ask, of course, but I'm glad to hear things are going well! (Was the 3-hour phone call with the man one of them? That's a pretty amazing length of time for a guy to talk on the phone, I have to say).

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 7:49pm

Yeah, the conversation was one of the things, and we were both shocked when we realized we'd been on the phone that long (although the burning ear from the hot cell phone should have been a sign), and I suspect had I not been in need of a break for food, we might have gone on even longer. We are going to get together this weekend, but haven't finalized a day yet (although we did eliminate Saturday since we both have other plans).


The other good news was work-related.


Instead of calling my friend, I decided to call my mom to fill her in because I knew she'd be happy about both things.


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Registered: 09-07-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 9:07pm

I can definitely relate to your situation. I attempted to make some friends last year. All women were older than me.They talk about their kids, and families non-stop! Never asking how life is and it was like they wanted to "compete" with the conversation skills. Lets just say they only become acquaintances and nothing more. I met one this year from my church. She is only 41,I am now 38. I thought we had a lot in common, until we spent a lunch together. Extremely selfish,nonstop self talk,and puts her husband down. She is 41 and cannot hold down a steady job because she thinks she knows everything!After that lunch, i stopped calling her cold turkey. I haven't seen her in a while. I do have family I can call, but I only see them about once a month in another state. I am in the process of starting my own social circle at meetups.com. I hope and pray that I meet some quality friends there.


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