About the Flirting issue...

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Registered: 11-01-2005
About the Flirting issue...
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Sat, 11-05-2005 - 6:15pm
Hi everyone, since my last post I have not seen this nurse in the section but i saw him the hall with some doctors and nurses. All he does is smile and say hello to me.
i have caught him staring (and smiling) at me as i told you before, but when I catch him he turns away. WHY does he do this? I have yet to start a little conversation- I feel a good vibe( like something is telling me he is interested), but I'm afraid. Why do I feel like this?
Thanks for any advice you may have.
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Registered: 11-05-2005
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 7:37pm
go for it :)
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 10:01am
Well if you don't say anything to him, chances are, he probably won't say anything to you.
Remember too, he's at work which makes it difficult. He probably doesn't want to come off as flirting and being unprofessional.
Another thing I thought of is while he may find you attractive and you think it may be a vibe, it doesn't necessarily mean he's interested in anything more. He may not be available for anything more. It could be he just appreciates your beauty.
This is one of those cases where you have to see how it goes.
You can continue to smile at him and hey, go over and make small talk if he doesn't seem too busy.
It just seems kind of awkward in his situation because he's a nurse at a hospital and I'm sure he doesn't want to seem unprofessional to his colleagues.
Good luck to you, though. I think in this case, you're probably going to have to be the one to atleast chat him up some to see where he's coming from.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 11:43am
hi, thanks for your responses.
liyahberry, I was thinking the same thing that you have said.
I appreciate your advice to me.
thanks!
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 2:39pm
I certainly understand your hesitation but look at it this way. You are thinking about this guy way too much and he's taking up way too much of your time for you to not know his situation or at least if he's capable of small talk. I really think you should just try to chat with him for a minute or two. Nothing serious, just a quick Hi or How are you? Long day? Beautiful weather we're having, etc. This way, you'll know if he wants to talk to you or is just extra friendly. Trust me, there's a lot of freedom in knowing this information. That way, you won't have to spend time analyzing his actions and body language and you can just let things be.
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Registered: 10-13-2005
Sat, 11-19-2005 - 11:40pm
Small talk doesn't solve anything... very similar situation for me, with a nurse even. We're chatty, single, he seems interested, I AM interested, but it still just leaves me wondering.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 8:35am
If he's chatty and "seems" interested but isn't doing anything to make more of it then he's not interested enough. You don't have to wonder, you already know. What you may not know is the reason for it but that's something you just have to be OK with. Like I said, a lot of freedom in accepting this.