advice?

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Registered: 04-23-2003
advice?
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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 8:04am

hey guys, I'm going out with my friend's cousin tonight for the first time. He seems like a nice enough guy, and I'm going out with him because, why not, he asked me. Still, if I don't see myself attracted to him (or if I am repelled by him) at the end of the night, what's the best, chillest way to let him know I'd like to pass on future dates?

Thanks.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: serenasue
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 9:50am

Honesty peppered with kindness. It's most respectful to be up front and not lead him on by saying something like, "It was nice meeting you and I wanted to thank you for a lovely evening. I look forward to having you as a new friend."

Now - telling him that you aren't sexually interested in him is pretty presumptuous. Telling him that you view him in the friend zone is a nice way to let him down. Unless you don't even wan to be friends with him.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: serenasue
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 11:02am

I'd just say thanks for coming out and don't make any effort toward any contact (a hug or anything).