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| Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:29pm |
Just curious if anyone has had this happen to them before. If you look a lot younger than you actually are, and if younger guys approach you and ask your age, do you tell them your real age or lie?
I'm wondering because I'm 32, but no EVER believes me. They always think I'm at least 21. So when I'm approached by younger guys, and they ask me how old I am, most of the time I tell them my real age (only because I feel guilty lying to them and to myself).
I like younger guys because I feel more comfortable around them (if that makes any sense), and I don't know if I should lie about my age, even though I can can get away with it.

It depends. Why do they need to ask?
I guess is a typical question, but I have your same situation. I am 32 and keep getting hit on by younger guys. I find most of them are not interested in a relationship and if I tell them my real age, you can see a whole change in their face. They can't believe it, but I have to be ready to have them move on to the next (younger girl).
I would like a relationship, but it's hard these days with any guy of any age. Most guys my age are married, have girlfriends (living in, etc.) or want to date 20 year olds, so they never have to "fight the biological clock". I do get upset when I see an online profile where a guy is 35 and only wants women under 29. It's like the clock stopped at 29 and our containers expired! Sometimes I do feel like lying about my age to prove a point (damn, I look good, and I am only getting better!). It's just a number, doesn't make me baby crazy, commitment phobic, desperate, or ready to settle for any guy who glances my way, etc.
I try not to put it out there, but I will not hide it either (I try to dodge the question or just plain say it depending on the guy). My mom says a woman's age is never discussed :0) If they like me they can overlook a number after all. I once dates a great 27 year old guy, he was nice but was still in school and really too busy. Later I dated a 30 year old guy who said he loved me and cared and gave me all the tall tales, later ran like a little boy as soon as things started getting serious. You never know. I got more respect and consideration from a younger guy than one closer to my age. This proves to me that age is just a number. Whoever jumps to conclusions about who you are because of age is a fool. I would never overlook a great guy (if I can find one) because of his age. I would hope he wouldn't miss out on a great girl like me because he is worried about biology.
>Just curious if anyone has had this happen to them before. If you look a lot younger than you actually are, and if younger guys approach you and ask your age, do you tell them your real age or lie?<
LOL! Nah! I tell 'em my real age!
Of course, this doesn't happen all the time. But it does occasionally. Yeah - I tell them. I'm proud of that fact that I'm 35 (almost 36) and still have 23 year-old guys hitting on me.
My worse was being hit on by an 18-year old and I am 37! I could technically be his mother. LOL
I dated a much younger guy for nearly 3 years. 11 years my junior. At first he seemed super mature then I realised he really was his age since he was still trying to figure out his life.
That's what's so off-putting about these younger guys, they don't have their s**t together enough. I don't want to be the one teaching them about finances and how to deposit money into an ATM!
I never lie about my age if someone asks. I'm proud to have racked up all these years on the planet.
Older women are also a turn on to younger men. They may not want to marry us, but they have heard tales of how much more confident we are in the sack.
Beach
The only people who tend to consistently ask my age are my students, and they've always thought I was younger than I really am.
I'd heard: don't date anyone who is younger than half your age plus seven. That means for me, 22 years old. I guess I'm still young. I'm lenient enough to say 21. For some reason, I can find even 21-year-old men who are more mature than I am. There should be extra lenience for people disabled the way I am. It stunted my maturity anyways. And I can easily pretend that I'm 24. Not that I do. Everybody needs to know my real age. It's not like it makes much difference. People who know me often forget that I'm as old as I am. But you already know that! My biggest question isn't age. It's instant gratification. Having sex too soon means that I'll lose interest in the relationship more quickly. I'm kind of like a guy, that way. Also, I seem to lose respect for the man I'm with, after we've done it--unless I had tons of respect for him, beforehand. I guess that also makes me immature. Also, I have a wall of ice around my heart. I don't really want to melt it myself. I want a man to convince me that he's worth my heart. I'll know he is, after he picks away the ice.
I know I sound cold-hearted (heeheehee). This coldness I've imposed on myself may seem strange. But I don't want to open my heart on my own. That only guarantees I'll give every man a fair try--even if he turns out to be average in everything. I like being a kind of test upon men. I don't have to actively try to "test" him. (And don't tell me that you've never tested a man; we like to be sure where his priorities lie.) I just have to be myself. And I don't like average.