Ahhh...the joys of dating

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Ahhh...the joys of dating
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Sat, 02-25-2006 - 4:25pm

So the guy I met last Sunday did call- on Tuesday- to make a date for tonight.

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 7:53pm
It sounds like you're right about his non-ladies man personality. That's actually my preference in men. Ladies man seems to equal player in most cases.
I knew you were excited about the top you bought, so I wondered if he said anything. I have no doubt he noticed though, that's inevitable. :-)
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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 8:40pm
That's a good idea - he may be unsure of your interest level.

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:47pm

Yeah, I'm thinking he probably noticed.

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:52pm

Yep, what the hey!

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 10:02pm

Well yes then, I'd certainly say so. :)

As for the "definition of insanity", I totally agree. If it's not working, try another route. Sounds good!

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 3:35am
I've thought about moving, but other than the lack of men, this place is just fine for me. I've got a nice job, a flat that I love, all my hobbies are near... I don't know if my quality of life could be any better elsewhere, except for the man part. Or maybe I've just hit a dry season, because it seems I hardly have any time for myself with my work and my voluntary work and the few work out sessions I manage to squeeze in, so the man hunting is pretty trivial at the moment... But I still have hope! :)
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:51am

I certainly would not call you crazy and we all have some similar concerns before a first date. But there is a part of your post that I don't understand: Wonderful. A guy who wants to spend money on me. Kinda makes me a bit uncomfortable, ya know?

I mean, it looks like English and I have never known you to write in a foreign language, but I just don't understand that.

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:56am

Wow - sounds intriguing. You said that there were a few kisses - so, how were they? Is the chemistry there? OK, I am going to stop now because I haven't read the rest of this thread yet and I am unsure of what you might have told us already.

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 1:41pm

>>friend of mine says absolutely not to call him, but she has men falling all over her. She can play aloof and not worry about another one coming along soon. Not so with me. <<

You might have had men interested in you in the past who were just afraid to say something or show it. Don't just assume that it's always the other woman that the men want -- I guarantee sometimes it's you.

I do agree that you should show interest and not be too aloof. However, if you try to have the mindset that you are amazing, hot and wonderful and that you could get any man you wanted, that confidence level will radiate to everyone around you. It will make you all the more attractive to him and to other guys when that confidence shines through. (I'm not saying be cocky, just play positive "records" in your head to remind yourself just how worth it you are).

From your account of the date, it sounds like things went really well. So, go with that. Savor that for a bit, and let the rest happen. I do empathize with the anxiety - we have all been there. But, remember that you are absolutely worth being chased and don't talk yourself out of that. This guy will hopefully know a good catch when he sees it. :)

Good luck and keep us posted.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:48pm

Jules, you're funny.