You've just gotta love some guys.
You mean the celibate one?? Uh huh...that'd go over well, with how much I like sex and all!
By the way Shy, had another blind date last night. Can you guess what this one does for a living?
- I only checked out the ads the first of every month for maybe 2, 3 days. I'd do a quick scan to get an overview, then go back and read them more carefully and pick 5 or 6 of them. Of those, I'd pick 3 or 4 to actually respond to.
- I also only replied to ads and never placed one myself. I figured I'd have more control over the responses and would put me in a "safer" position, being a woman and all.
- I never answered ads between Oct and Feb. My thinking was, by that time they're lining up their holiday dates, and the only ones left are the ones not worth having (and perhaps that's why they're still alone). By Mar the selections would pick up, and there'd actually be more and different #s to choose from.
I got into these habits b/c, after "trolling the ads" for over 10 years, I learned that if I answered more frequently than I described, I'd actually get into the "re-treads" and I'd find guys I'd already met before! That I found depressing b/c I'd think, gee, I really HAVE met them all...But by answering a little less often, I'd find a "new crop" from time to time, and no doubt I too was part of a "new crop" for those that I'd encounter. Also, there were a few times when I wouldn't answer any ads at all for months on end b/c the "pickings were lean."
But even during the lean times, it just takes believing in abundance and trusting that there WILL be another bus next hour...
The following is an excerpt from the profile of a man from whom I've just received an email:
The person I'd like to meet is a fun-loving, creative and smart dominatrix with an adventurous spirit. Someone with a warm and nurturing soul who expresses her feelings. A sense of romance is important too.>>
The vast majority of the men I've met online have been kind, good people. With most, there was no chemistry so I never saw them again. However, I have dated many guys who I met online for 1-2 months, and met my current bf online. My bf is a great guy - funny, kind, caring, treats me wonderfully. And if I'd never tried online dating, I would never have met him.
So if you're open to it I'd definitely recommend online dating. Just be careful, and if anyone seems "off" at any point - just cease contact.
This time around my luck is not so great. In the 5 1/2 months I've been back online I've only met one person face-to-face. (We dated almost 3 months).
It does start to become frustrating when for weeks on end either (1) no one even seems to look at your profile (2) most of the emails you receive are from people looking for "intimate encounters" (3) the ones who do seem nice stop contact after the first email or phone call or (4) the ones who interest you, ignore you completely when you try to contact them.
I don't know what's changed since I did online dating last year (the same site btw). I wouldn't rule out online dating altogether b/c I have heard of some success stories. However, my subscription expires in mid-Nov so I might take a break and come back later when a new crop of people sign up for membership.