Ahh...men.

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Ahh...men.
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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 6:36pm

You've just gotta love some guys.

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In reply to: cl_shywon
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 8:25pm
hey, i say go for the morocco guy. maybe he'll pay for a plane ticket to visit him? i've always wanted to go to morocco...
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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 9:48pm

You mean the celibate one?? Uh huh...that'd go over well, with how much I like sex and all!

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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 9:34am
You may think all the best guys are after you, but I got a message today from one up to the caliber of those e-mailing you. After ignoring this guy twice when he wrote messages where he tried to sound charming and just told me about himself, he finally wrote for a third time telling me directly that all he really wanted was sex. He sure knows how to win a girl over! I'm so glad it's possible to block people. I won't be hearing from this one again.

By the way Shy, had another blind date last night. Can you guess what this one does for a living?

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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 10:11am
Before my ill-fated marriage, I dated via the personals (which I expect to return to someday), and I had my own little formula for approaching them:

- I only checked out the ads the first of every month for maybe 2, 3 days. I'd do a quick scan to get an overview, then go back and read them more carefully and pick 5 or 6 of them. Of those, I'd pick 3 or 4 to actually respond to.

- I also only replied to ads and never placed one myself. I figured I'd have more control over the responses and would put me in a "safer" position, being a woman and all.

- I never answered ads between Oct and Feb. My thinking was, by that time they're lining up their holiday dates, and the only ones left are the ones not worth having (and perhaps that's why they're still alone). By Mar the selections would pick up, and there'd actually be more and different #s to choose from.

I got into these habits b/c, after "trolling the ads" for over 10 years, I learned that if I answered more frequently than I described, I'd actually get into the "re-treads" and I'd find guys I'd already met before! That I found depressing b/c I'd think, gee, I really HAVE met them all...But by answering a little less often, I'd find a "new crop" from time to time, and no doubt I too was part of a "new crop" for those that I'd encounter. Also, there were a few times when I wouldn't answer any ads at all for months on end b/c the "pickings were lean."

But even during the lean times, it just takes believing in abundance and trusting that there WILL be another bus next hour...

Ash


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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 1:39pm
Hey shywon,

The following is an excerpt from the profile of a man from whom I've just received an email:

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The person I'd like to meet is a fun-loving, creative and smart dominatrix with an adventurous spirit. Someone with a warm and nurturing soul who expresses her feelings. A sense of romance is important too.>>

jhoover


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In reply to: cl_shywon
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 1:46pm
I bet you couldn't wait to respond to that message!
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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 2:32pm
Has anyone ever met a decent person while dating online. I have never tried it and may wait a while before trying it, but all I have ever heard of are horror stories. Aren't there nice people on there too? There has to be if you all have tried it. You're there right!
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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 2:52pm
Yes, I have met some wonderful men online -including my bf, who I've been seeing for 3 months! The stories in this thread are the extremes that people like to laugh about. Sure, I've had a few strange emails and undesirable men contact me. But I just never write back to those guys.

The vast majority of the men I've met online have been kind, good people. With most, there was no chemistry so I never saw them again. However, I have dated many guys who I met online for 1-2 months, and met my current bf online. My bf is a great guy - funny, kind, caring, treats me wonderfully. And if I'd never tried online dating, I would never have met him.

So if you're open to it I'd definitely recommend online dating. Just be careful, and if anyone seems "off" at any point - just cease contact.

ginger

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Registered: 07-05-2003
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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 3:01pm
This is my second time around with online dating. Last year, over a period of 6 months I had quite a number of first dates. All of the men I met were very nice - but no chemistry with any of them. I only encountered a couple of shady types but I never actually met any of them in person.

This time around my luck is not so great. In the 5 1/2 months I've been back online I've only met one person face-to-face. (We dated almost 3 months).

It does start to become frustrating when for weeks on end either (1) no one even seems to look at your profile (2) most of the emails you receive are from people looking for "intimate encounters" (3) the ones who do seem nice stop contact after the first email or phone call or (4) the ones who interest you, ignore you completely when you try to contact them.

I don't know what's changed since I did online dating last year (the same site btw). I wouldn't rule out online dating altogether b/c I have heard of some success stories. However, my subscription expires in mid-Nov so I might take a break and come back later when a new crop of people sign up for membership.

jhoover

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In reply to: cl_shywon
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 4:20pm
If you wouldn't mind sharing - what are some of the sites you use for on-line dating? Thanks.

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