"all that"

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"all that"
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 8:09am
As a matter of interest (from reading a previous post) what qualities would you consider a person who is "all that" to possess?

for me, it's having all of what most people would like to possess, e.g. good looks, intelligence, money, charisma etc etc ;)

what do you guys think?

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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 8:43am
Intelligent, witty, attractive, compassionate, sparkle, empathic, humble, understated, spiritual, family-oriented, true class (i.e. can establish rapport with a waitress, a CEO, a hair stylist, elevator operator, famous actor, equally well), considerate, ambitious, healthy lifestyle, positive outlook. I happen to hate the phrase all that, by the way - sounds too trendy or like street talk - and I would not date or hang around with anyone who described himsel or herself like that - then they wouldn't have the humility I require!
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 9:29am
There is a man I work with. He's very nice, almost too nice, and I'm trying to get a handle on if he's sincere or if he's just trying to make everyone like him. He's been burned by two ex-wives in the past pretty harshly, and he appears to be out there trying to meet as many women as he can, and he treats them all very well. If someone is sick he'll send a get well card, he asks how the kids are, how the elderly parents, etc. I've never met a man like him. He doesn't care to have many male friends, just prefers being around women. The way he meets most of these women is in chat rooms, and I've always had a somewhat negative view of chat rooms and trying to meet people that way, but right now I'm about ready to give that a go too! Its sort of sickening the stories he'll tell me - that that women practically throw themselves at him, and tell him what a great guy he is.
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 10:43am
The tooting his own horn business would be a red flag to me - sounds like he likes the romancing and the ego stroking. I'd stay awa.
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 10:56am
It can change from person to person. You could meet a guy that is very guy like, he fixes the sink and the car and is quiet. Or you could meet the business man that will just call the plumber and the mechanic to fix things for him and yet either one could be perfect. I think there isn't necessarily someone who is "all that" but there are special qualities in everyone that would be better to get to know. Everyone has to have something special about them and maybe the one special thing about someone may outweigh the ten small good things about someone else.
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 12:22pm
If this happens to post twice - sorry!

I'm wondering what makes a person "toot their own horn." And will that person always be that way?? Have any of you known a person like that? I honestly cannot recall ever meeting a person such as this man.

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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 1:12pm
I find it odd that you've never met someone who toots his own horn. There are a lot of people out there like that. I think that for the most part they lack self-confidence and are looking to get a boost from others admiring their many accomplishments (whether they be real accomplishments or imagined). As for whether such a person will always be that way, well, it depends. If he ever comes to see his boasting as others see it, maybe he'll make a change and might not try so hard to make sure everyone knows about his accomplishments.
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 1:37pm
Insecurity.
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 2:17pm
When I was younger I knew a couple of people that would toot their own horns occassionly, but not to the extent this man does. Plus, I would have thought that, given his age (mid-40's) he would be more secure.