always looking,comes along let it go..

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Registered: 02-24-2007
always looking,comes along let it go..
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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 11:55am
RIGHT.. can anyone tell me why im confident and flirty with all men and then when someone i find really attractive comes along i get all shy and sweet?!!! ahh its annoying, i revert into a little girl. For example this guy who i know likes me, i like him (well the look of) havnt actually had long conversation BUT i have his number and for some reason cant bring my self to make the move. WHY???! well i partly know the answer myself.. i love playing the game and find the tease more fun than the rest of it and also have a phobia of commitment, god im like a bloke. Anyway in this particular case, and its happened before ive made my self attractive, only then to make myself unavailable which of course works wonders in making him like me more but i dont know, it could be good..we could be good together. I just get all nervous and shy like i dont want to let him down. He thinks im this wonderful person, maybe i dont want to let him down. phhh.....
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 12:19pm
I've always been the same way - I can be flirty and all outgoing with guys I'm not interested in "that way." But the minute one comes along that I COULD be interested in, unless he's someone I already know, I get all shy, too. When I first set eyes on my boyfriend, I wanted SO BAD to go introduce myself to him before some other girl did. But I turned into a BIG chicken. I even walked up to where he was sitting at the bar, and at the last second, made a slight turn and walked by him, pretending I was looking for someone else. I finally had to get "help" - I'd seen an older lady talking to him on the dance floor, so I told her my "predicament" and she tapped him on the shoulder and said, "You have to meet Stacey - she's one of our best dancers!" Then, she suggested we dance the two-step (country partner dance) that had just come on, and then the rest, we're makin' history. ;)