Am I a bad person?

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Registered: 04-16-2006
Am I a bad person?
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Sun, 04-16-2006 - 11:48pm

Ok,

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years about a month ago. Suddenly men are coming out of the woodwork. I have been having sex with a guy in my class (so hot but a major player)and have gone on a date with an old aquaintance from high school (nothing happend). I was downtown the other night and a friend of mine introduced me to this really hot guy who seems really sweet. We were talking tonigt as well.

On top of it all, I am going to be moving 16 hours away in a couple of months. So I figure I am allowed to have some fun before I leave and I don't want anything serious.

Does this make me a bad person? Am I a player? Or just a girl having a good time. I am not sure how this fits into the "rules".

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 10:47am

Sounds like you are sowing some wild oats. Nothing wrong with that -- as long as you are protecting yourself and your partners, and you're being honest with them about where things stand (that you're not looking for more than a fling).

After a long-term relationship, it's normal to check out what else is out there.

However, I would also give yourself some time to "grieve" the loss of your relationship. If you're sleeping with other men to mask the pain, then that pain will just creep up later - stronger. The only real way to get through a loss is to feel the pain.

If not, be safe and have fun.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-16-2006
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 8:32pm

Thanks,

I really feel a lot better about myself and my actions.

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 9:41pm
Oh honey. have your fun, you deserve it.
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Registered: 04-16-2006
Tue, 04-18-2006 - 7:09am

That's all I needed to hear. (and I am having fun)

Thanks.