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| Thu, 04-13-2006 - 2:18pm |
Or does it seem that everyone out there who are potential "mates" are only interested in themselves. I will focus on the women because I am myself a guy who is single and who tries to meet women to date, be friends with, talk to, or maybe get serious with but I seem to run into so many unappealing people(emotionally and mentally not pyhsically). I look at the news and look at people everywhere(newpaper editorials, at work, at school, on the street, at the grocery store, at night clubs and parties-everywhere!) and I see so many self-invovled, greedy, idealistic people everywhere, and all the time. I judge this by the way they interact with me, other people, noticing how they carry themselves and how they seem to react to things. I am coming off as a grumpy person who has a dislike for people but Im not, I am really an open minded person who wants to like others and who wants to have a little faith in others but I find it impossible especially when it comes to women when I am trying to find someone to connect with even if it is only on a friendship level. I am becoming more and more disillisioned with other people especially the opposite sex.
Forgive me for sounding mean or like a grumpy SOB but I am just upset with people in general....
Let me know if you agree with or dont or think Im a crazy person lol....

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Chicago? fellow Illinoisian(or whatever people in Illinois are called) Great city, but anyway...
Well I have to admit a great deal of respect for a woman who isnt bowled over by being hit on by a hot guy. Many girls I know would get hit on by a hot guy and just gush and fall all over them.
Guys who are used to getting their way are very pushy with women who arent interested right off the bat and dont know how to be classy and respectful. But I do have to ask a question ruby...
If you thought this guy was 'hot' to begin with why did you not show interest when he approached you? I'm curious.
I talk to everybody as long as they arent jerks. He wasn't a jerk, just very drunk and trying really hard to get me interested. I am in a serious long-term relationship so I'm not going to jeopardize that by some drunk guy at the bar though I'll still be approachable in a platonic way. I think many men are good looking and just because I'm not available doesn't mean I don't appreciate a good looking man.
Does that answer your question? Its kind of confusing...
I didnt realize you were in a relationship ruby...
Sorry if I was confusing I have a bad habit of just letting things come out all at once even when Im typing and sometimes it comes out confusing.
This brings up another issue(yes one more) I also have with approaching women...I have had some experiences in the past with approaching women who were with someone but it wasnt obvious that they were...and trouble has been started between me and the girl's bf or friends or whatever...
There just seems to be a lot of things that cause anxiety and pressure when it comes to seeing attractive women...and Im usually very laid back cool and confident with everything in life except the opposite sex.
No chance of trouble with my boyfriend...he's 600 miles away. Have to defend myself ;-)
Its a risk you take I guess because it isnt always apparent right away. I think the only way to handle that type of situation is to apologize and walk away. If her boyfriend is a meathead he'll try something...just ignore him. Otherwise I would think he wouldn't care as long as you left or apologized. My boyfriend told me that he would have given the guy the "staredown" and then put his arm around me. Apparently thats the cue.
Having interests that are not common is nothing to be ashamed of. I am in the same boat and I don't feel the need to hide it. I am very close with a couple of my cousins - we are close in age and spend a lot of time together - but very different from them. They tease me about being a walking encyclopedia and they just don't understand how I can be so passionate about discussing The Wilson Doctrine. But there it is.
Because I have no interest in sports or children or the usual things, my dating pool is a little bit smaller. But so what? If I am not honest about my interests, I am wasting my time dating people that I have nothing in common with. No, thanks. Besides, most people that I meet don't look down on me because of my interests. While they may not share them, they tend to think it's neat. Besides, I don't want to be with someone who is just like me. Some shared interests are a necessity but having separate interests is healthy too.
Own who you are - and spend time with people who really appreciate what you have to bring to the table.
I find it fascinating that guys do the same thing girls do.
Okay, I've read through all of the posts and I'm going to try and respond to everything, but my brain gets jumbled sometimes!
First, whoever said that ALL pretty girls get hit on ALL the time is WRONG.
This has nothing to do with the thread topic.
Shy, are you able to log on to MSN messenger?
Laziness?.... Im curious what do you mean by that exactly.
Also I believe that about 70-80 % of girls are attractive from the slutty ones to the quiet cute girl sitting in the corner of class. But I always think to myself about even the quiet shy ones...they are probably in love with Brad Pitt or Vin Disel....what do I have in common with their picture perfect man?(nothing)
I even think the women on these boards with pics up are too attractive for me so...Im not just talking about the slutty ones shywon...
countrygrlupnorth....
I see your pic on here and I must say I think you are very attractive so I would be intimidated to appraoch you if I saw you.
When I say hot girls, everyone thinks of the slutty ones who are mean and selfish...which I do find attractive because they are good looking but I think most girls are hot...I love women and I find 8 or 9 out of 10 women attractive and I just think I am not what any woman would want...I just pysche myself out and say I fall short on many aspects. Especially my looks which is the foot in the door when approaching them. I just dont think a woman would notice me in a crowd or do a double take if they passed me which makes me feel like-"why should I even try then?"
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