Am I hanging on to nothing?
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Am I hanging on to nothing?
| Tue, 10-11-2005 - 4:08pm |
I am 25 years old and met a great guy at my best friend's wedding in March. We immediately hit it off and things were better than they had ever been in any other relationship. We both knew that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with each other and it would happen someday. He would say things to me as "My mom knows I'm going to marry you." We lived 2 1/2 hours apart so our weekends were really all that we had but we spent every weekend together that we could. Everything was great until 2 weeks ago. We had gone to a wedding the weekend before. Everyone kept asking when we were getting married,etc.I get a call on Friday 2 weeks ago, at work, it's him. He asks if I'm still planning on coming down this weekend. I said Yeah, I guess...Why, you don't want me to? He said "I don't know". Well, I immediately lost it. This was completely out of the blue. After I pulled myself together, I hit the road to see him. He called after I had been on the road for about 45 min and asked what I was doing. I told him I was coming to see him that we needed to talk in person not over the phone. I asked if he was going to be home when I got there and he told me no, that he needed a break. He said just give me this weekend, when I asked if we were breaking up he said No.So I was completely upset, I turned around and drove back home. I let the days go by until Tuesday. I called him and left a message saying I needed to talk to him, that I knew he needed a break but I had to know what was going on. I said if I don't hear from you by tonight, I'll know it's over. I didn't hear from him. So the next day, I get off of work and call him from a # he wouldn't know. He answered and we talked. He said he was feeling scared and pressured. I made sure he knew I was not behind my friends asking him at the wedding when we were getting married. He said it wasn't just them, his friends were saying the same thing. He said he needs to grow up and that this has nothing to do with me. It's now been 3 weeks ago last Friday and I haven't heard anything from him. I don't know if he was feeling scared because he has never felt this way about anyone before and didn't know what to do....or if he really just doesn't want to see me ever again. I just don't understand how things could go from so great on a Sunday to being over the following Friday. Any insight on this? Should I give up hope?

Good luck and try not to analyze yourself and your actions down to every detail.
Yes, you are hanging onto something, and that something is someone who is not worth a second more of your time. Let him go and go find yourself someone more worthy!
Best of luck :)
This is the beginning of the end.